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September 13th, 2009, 11:20 AM
AliciaF's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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And as I was in the shower all I could think about was what am I going to do with all the gifts we receive if she dies?


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September 13th, 2009, 12:17 PM
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awww alicia hugs hun

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September 13th, 2009, 12:31 PM
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I know...its so hard. My family is throwing me a diaper shower this weekend and part of me wants to give all of the diapers I get to my cousin who is 17 and just had a baby....I hate that I always think in What if's....

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September 13th, 2009, 02:59 PM
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I feel you ladies. The girls in my DDC are talking about all of the things they are going to buy their babies. I'm thinking about what i can buy Squirt that will fit in a memory box in case we lose him/her too.

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September 14th, 2009, 06:07 AM
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Hugs, Its so hard. I never had any baby showers for my last two since I was so against having one for Owen. I didn't want to sit there and ohh and ahh over gifts I thought at the time I might never be able to use. I did have one after Owen was born but that's it.

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September 14th, 2009, 08:27 AM
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Oh gosh, that's hard. I't hurts my heart that you even had to have those thoughts go through your head. I'm sorry this is our "new normal".

My friend threw us a baby shower on Saturday, July 19th 2008. On Monday July 21st 2008, the doctor couldn't find Noah's heartbeat. I had the haunting thought go through my head that he was already dead at the shower and didn't hear one word I was saying to him and Julia during the shower. All those twin gifts we had received ... and on the Sunday evening before that Monday, we had set up the play yards in our bedroom, side by side, awaiting their arrival ...

What memories. The following week, we were returning things to Babies R Us, explaining why we didn't have receipts for these things we were returning that also didn't have their original packaging. It was horrible.

I wish I could tell you to think positively, but then I'd have to take my own advice and that's so hard to do

Stay strong.

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September 14th, 2009, 08:33 AM
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I am so sorry you are feleing that way. I can only imagine.

Sometimes I think I want everything if I get pregnant again. I want to do all the baby/pregnancy stuff because I want to celebrate the life, but then I think about stuff like this, and how maybe I won't need it, and it is so sad I jsut can't think about it again.

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