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January 22nd, 2010, 10:59 PM
AliciaF's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Have you given any thought to what you want done with the urn and your child's ashes when you pass on? I don't know that I want to leave him behind. I know my sons would cherish him, but what would happen after they are gone?

I think I'd like to be buried with his urn.

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January 22nd, 2010, 11:57 PM
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We don't have Ethan with us, his ashes were scattered with the other lost little ones at our hospital. While I like that he isn't lonely, I do regret not having him with me, and since I want to be cremated too, I may have my ashes scattered where his are.

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January 23rd, 2010, 07:26 AM
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I'm taking my girls with me. They will be buried with one of us. Dh and I haven't actually made a decision yet on where WE will be, but our girls will be with us. DH doesn't want to go in the ground, he gets skeeved thinking about the bugs crawling on him. I'm fine with where ever I go. I tell him, "Throw me in a hefty bag in the backyard." I won't know what's going on.

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January 23rd, 2010, 09:12 AM
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I think he'll probably be buried with us.
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January 23rd, 2010, 11:05 AM
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I was just thinking about this the other day...I'm not sure if i'll be burined or what, but Ella will be with me, I don't want to leave her behind.
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January 23rd, 2010, 11:43 AM
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We are going to have the boys' urns buried next to my Mom sometime this summer, but... We both want to be cremated, so we will all be placed in a box together.
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January 23rd, 2010, 12:22 PM
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Eva and Declan will be buried with us in our caskets. One will be buried with me and one will be buried with my husband. We haven't decided the exact 'pairings' yet.

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January 23rd, 2010, 12:37 PM
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I had 3 of my babies cremated. Noah, May, and a little girl I lost at 14 weeks and never named. I have separate urns for all of them, but I plan on being cremated, so I want their ashes mixed in with mine...
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January 23rd, 2010, 01:30 PM
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We've talked about scattering his cremains or waiting until I pass and have them combined and then scattered. Not sure yet.
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January 23rd, 2010, 03:05 PM
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Rebecca is buried in a cemetery in Bedford Nova Scotia right now - when we get family plots she will be moved to them and buried with us - I want to be creamted and buried and my husband tells me he wants his ashes put out to sea (he isin the navy)
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January 24th, 2010, 01:10 PM
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Ceilidh is buried, we will be cremated and our ashes buried with her. We have the deeds to the plot for 80 years, so as long as one of us 'pops off' before I'm 101, there will fresh deeds drawn up for another 80 years for next of kin to own!
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January 24th, 2010, 02:50 PM
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We have some of Katrina's ashes buried at the cemetery and some of them at home in a small heart-shaped jewelry box. I've told Jon I want her ashes buried with me when it's my time to go. He is completely fine with that.
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January 24th, 2010, 03:12 PM
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We scattered Cora's ashes at Jenny Lake in Grand Teton National Park, and her urn is filled with gravel from the lake bed. I'm not sure what we'll do with her things when I die. I hope that one of my children would want them. (my dad has all the pictures and the scrapbook of his sister who died on his 4th birthday)

I do want either Cora's name written on my headstone, or a small one for her on the same plot. I've always regretted not being able to give her a headstone, you know, proof to the world that she was here.
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