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February 23rd, 2011, 12:53 PM
Jessido's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Hello everyone-

I never ever thought I would have to post in this forum. But today, the day that would have been Liam's anatomy scan day, I will share my story.

We got pregnant by surprise. We were scared, thrilled, and excited. As time went on, we fell madly in love with this baby. At the beginning of my pregnancy, I experienced tons of nausea. So much so that my doctor told I was severely dehydrated and may need IV fluids. I wish she would have just given me them.

It took me several weeks to get my hydration on track and lose my nausea. I was only JUST losing it when Liam was born at 18 weeks.

Exactly 8 days ago, I was experiencing extreme pain in my uterus, lower back, and groin area. For the first few hours I tried to take it easy, rest, and research about the pain on the internet. It all seemed to match "round ligament pain". In fact, I had the pain a few weeks earlier just once and mentioned it to my doctor, it was dismissed and no medical exam was done. If only I had pressed her to check me out. I'm 23 so everyone was SO aloof with my pregnancy and assumed all would be fine.

Back to 8 days ago, we finally decided this pain was too much and went to the ER. Everyone took their sweet time to see us. I took a blood and urine test, we turned on the TV and watched a basketball game as we waited for the time to pass.

Finally a doctor came in and gave me a short physical exam and said "everything seems fine but we will give you a ultrasound to be sure". We saw our sweet baby on the screen and we was active, happy, kicking and looking around. So beautiful. I was faced away from the screen so I couldnt see but Jordan saw it all and watched in happy amazement.

I first knew something was terribly wrong when the u/s tech wheeled us back to the ER and said somberly "Good luck to you..." It took the doctors over an hour to process my u/s results. No one told me to lay down or raise my feet. Nothing. Finally a doctor came in and said "We have your ultrasound results and they are a *little concerning* the baby seems to have his foot through the cervix. The OB on call is on her way"

In the OR I was shaking so hard during my cerclage that they strapped my arms down. After a few minutes they told me my membranes were buldging and they would need to "abandon the cerclage" and I had a 90% chance of losing the baby. We were crushed.

The next hours/days are a blur. I delivered baby Liam at 7:35 pm he was 7 ounces and 8.5 inches.

Avery. 4/11

Last edited by Jessido; March 7th, 2011 at 03:16 PM.
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February 23rd, 2011, 01:57 PM
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I am so sorry for the loss of your son Liam and for the horrible way you were treated at the hospital. We are all here when you need to scream, cry, vent, or just need someone who understands.
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February 23rd, 2011, 09:49 PM
AliciaF's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I had similar "what ifs" and "why's" when we lost our son at 20 weeks 2 1/2 years ago.

I'm sorry for the loss of your sweet Liam.

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February 26th, 2011, 09:11 AM
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I had a long reply typed and then it messed up and I just don't have time to do it again, so I'll just add

I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
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