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March 3rd, 2011, 11:12 AM
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The last couple of days I have been have been feeling more & more guilty about losing Daniel. It is all my fault that he is gone... He should be here in a month & instead my body didn't work right

I am just SO mad at myself, and am missing him terribly...

Thank you Katie (.:Shortcake:.) for my beautiful siggy!!

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March 3rd, 2011, 12:10 PM
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firstly huni to you

i felt the exact same when i lost me baby..it is totallly normal to feel this way cos we were the ones that carried them in our bodies hun

i found the early years hard always blaming myself until i just realised that nobody was to blame our precious angels where to good for this world

you need to take every min as it comes..if you are over come with saddness then go with it..there is no shame in showing how you are feeling and grieving for you lost baby

you will never get over the loss of you baby but one day you will learn to walk along side of it

it has been 14yrs since i have lost my girl and not a day goes by that i dont think bout her

try and be kind to yourself hun and keep talking if you feel it helps hun
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March 4th, 2011, 09:13 AM
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I'm not remembering your story. Is there something specific that makes you feel like it's your fault?

I feel a lot of guilt, too. Mostly because I had a friend offer to take my shift at work so that I could go to the hospital the night she died (when I was still feeling movement, so I KNOW she was alive at that point) but I brushed it off and decided to wait until morning. And by morning she was dead.

It took me a while to realize, though, that it wasn't the fact that I didn't go to the hospital that killed her.

Being wrapped in her umbilical cord killed her.

I hope you can go easy on yourself. No matter what happened, you didn't want your baby to die.
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March 4th, 2011, 12:37 PM
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lots and lots of hugs, i think we have all been there at some point hun its a hard place to be.

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March 4th, 2011, 04:41 PM
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Brittanie - I feel like it's all my fault because I had D&C's with most of my losses because I didn't think I was emotionally strong enough to handle going through the waiting for the natural m/c... I think it's because of that my cervix wasn't strong enough to hold him... if I had been stronger before, he would be here... It always crosses my mind too that if I had taken more notice of the signs that were there, but I just took as "normal" for pregnancy, they would have caught the IC in time

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