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August 6th, 2011, 08:44 PM
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Thinking back to Jaren's birth tonight, and I am getting more & more upset (angry?) as I think of it.

I think most of us here knew that our babies were going to be born still. Were you placed in a room by other women who were celebrating their births?

The cries of the newborns, the laughter and cheers from the hallway, it was brutal for me. That night & early morning as I labored I could hear the constant, distinct cries of the newborn in the next room.

Why do they not have either a soundproof room or a room off to itself especially for women like us? I understand that we need to be on that floor because that is where all of the specialists are, but it's brutal emotionally to be put next to a newborn as you are about to deliver a still baby.

Did your hospital make accommodations for your birth? At mine they put me in a regular room in labor/deliver/recovery but placed a wreath on the door (this told all nurses, doctors, photographers, lacation people etc that it was a "grief" room)

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August 6th, 2011, 09:58 PM
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I was in a regular labor and delivery room but there was a sign on the door (a picture of a leaf with a rain drop falling from it) to let staff know. But, as I was laboring (walking the hallways) I was walking past other laboring women, newborn babies being rolled down the hallway in their bassinets, etc.
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August 6th, 2011, 11:40 PM
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They were pretty full when I got there so I was in a room next to laboring women, but in a private room. The room had two sections, one for mom and one for baby with the warmer and equipment. That part had been sectioned off with a folding wall. I guess they thought it would be too hard for me to see it, but it was hard knowing it was there and they weren't planning on needing it.

There was only one time that I heard the other woman, it was right at the end of her labor, and then the first cries of her baby. In my hospital they had the L&D floor, and then moved you upstairs. I think they moved that mom up pretty fast because I didn't hear the baby crying much after that first time.

When it was time for me to be moved upstairs, they again gave me a private room. It was in the back of the unit and in the corner so I didn't see any family walking around. Then again, my door was closed most of the time. They didn't put anything on my door, but there was a flowery sign where it said my last name, so maybe that was the signal. Hardly anybody came into my room unless we needed something, or if they needed to take my vitals.

Even my room service associate kept her distance (which I am very grateful for since we knew each other)

It's very awkward for employees to deal with death. Even in hospitals. I work in the pediatric ICU, and it's horrible. I so badly want to comfort them, but what can you do? I'm sure each person does the best they can.

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August 7th, 2011, 10:35 AM
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I was in a regular, private room. They put a sign on the door with a tree and a falling leaf. I wasn't up and around walking during labor as I was on mag sulfate, so I didn't come in contact with any ladies in labor.

My room was pretty sound proof. Occasionally I would hear a muted scream, but that was it.

They had talked about sending me to the critical care unit instead of keeping me in L/D afterwards, but they decided it was better to be closer to them. I don't know if that would have made a difference.

A few days later, when I was finally allowed to get up and walk out in the halls for a little bit, I noticed another door with the same sign on it.

Towards the end of the stay, I had a pregnant nurse for one of the days. It actually wasn't tough for me, but I wondered if it was tough for her to have to see what could happen.

I have to say, that all of my nurses were wonderful (except one, but since I only had her for one 12 hour shift and I was there for 9 days, I don't count her.) The day Sara was born, I had two excellent nurses assigned only to me.

Overall, I think my hospital handled it really well. Even the nutrition lady that came to talk to me every evening was awesome.
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August 7th, 2011, 11:20 PM
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I don't remember hearing anyone. The only issue I had was when I walked up to L&D, the nurse didn't know who I was and she was holding a newborn when she asked for my information. Once she realized who I was, though, she took the baby back to the back and called my main nurse.

I don't remember there being something on my door other than the latex allergy notification, but they all knew. I was released 4 hours after delivery, but they offered to move me off the floor if I was going to stay overnight.
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August 8th, 2011, 12:32 AM
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In all this time, I've never thought about other mothers being there...

We had a white rose on the door. And one lady called me "mom" and I asked her to call me by my name...I remember worrying about the nurses being upset, so I kept telling them it would be okay...how strange...

But I never saw or heard another mother. I honestly don't know if I would have handled it very well if I had...it took me almost three years to be able to sit near a child in a restaraunt...
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August 8th, 2011, 07:50 AM
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The hospital where I went has a seperate floor for gynecology/women's issues. When I was first brought in, they took me to the labor & delivery floor initially, but later brought me to that floor. I later learned that women on strict bed rest are also situated on that floor till they are going to give birth. The nurses also made it a point to ensure that I was in a room by myself~ I really loved the staff on that floor - they were all so kind.

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August 8th, 2011, 11:23 AM
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I was in a room at the end of the hall with that same raindrop leaf. I heard nothing, but to be fair when I was giving birth to Grant a year and a half later I couldn't hear much either. The hospital was amazing about taking care of me when I had Ethan, but sadly, they have a lot of practice, they have 2 stillbirths a week.

Seeing the warmer killed me though.

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August 8th, 2011, 02:52 PM
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I had the leaf with the raindrop on my door too. They also used a certificate with the same image for his footprints.

I was in a private room on L&D, but away from the other women the floor was not very busy that day. I was induced at about 8:30 p.m. and delivered at 7:35 a.m and went home at noon, so not much time for me to run into other people. THe hardest part was being wheeled out of the L&D floor with a red face and no baby

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August 8th, 2011, 02:52 PM
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My situation was a little different as I abrupted and went from 0 to 7cm dilated and in transition very quickly. By the time I'd got to the hospital I was hemorrhaging, my water had broken and I was in full on labor so there was no time to do anything but get me on a bed. I delivered 15 minutes after we arrived in the triage room.

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August 8th, 2011, 04:26 PM
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I went in on a monday night to be induced...The woman who took me to my room asked me if it was my first baby...I had to tell her my baby was dead (which made me cry)....The night the induction started the woman in the room next to mine (which happened to be the room I had my son in) was in active labor...I could hear the heartbeat on the monitor as I lay in my bed, which also made me cry...Then that night late I could hear her giving birth and her family all cheering, and then the baby crying...I didn't give birth till wed that week and i'm not sure if I heard anything after that night, it's all a daze to me...I think they had a picture of a flower on my door...I never left my room till I left the hospital on thursday so I can't remember exactly what was on my door, but I do know something was on my door...My nurse brought me my food, and the cleaning lady didn't come in till I was leaving on thursday (usually they come in more than that)...I think the hospital did the best they could, but it was really hard hearing that the first night I was there...Luckily when I was leaving L&D with my memory box and without my baby didn't see anyone in the hallways or the waitingroom.
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August 8th, 2011, 07:44 PM
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I didn't leave my room until after Mary was born but they told me there was a butterfly on my door. I think they tried really hard to shelter me from hearing babies crying but in the middle of the night while I was laboring one was born who was really, really loud. The nurse seemed bothered by it, I think she was afraid it would upset me but honestly I kind of liked it. I thought at least someone was having a good time that night.

I had great nurses and was given very good care overall, I think. My only complaint was the social workers. They said they would help us with the funeral arrangements but then disappeared leaving us to deal with all of that on our own.

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August 10th, 2011, 04:22 PM
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I don't ever remember hearing any other babies while I was in the hospital. I had a thing on my door that said Privacy and had two butterflies, but I'm not sure if that was because of the situation, or if everyone had that. I don't even remember thinking of anyone else having their babies on that floor, but I remember the nurse warning me when they were rolling me out to the car that there might be balloons and other babies but they tried to put me in a room off by myself to shelter me from that. I'm sure it would have been hard to see other moms having their babies.
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August 11th, 2011, 02:23 PM
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i was on a regular ward hearing women in labour and babies crying was heartbreaking! i remember hearing a baby scream as jessica was born my heart wwas in a million pieces.

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August 11th, 2011, 04:02 PM
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I was on the regular delivery ward, although I don't remember hearing any other mothers or newborns.
I was moved onto the private floor and was in a private suite for the 4 days I was in hospital after Ceilidh was born. I don't know if there was anything on the door as I never ventured out, all I wanted was in that suite with me.
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August 12th, 2011, 09:46 PM
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I was on L&D, but they have two rooms as you first walk in that are the "new rooms" and they have another set of doors right past them. I was in one of those rooms. I never left my room until I was discharged. I don't think anything was on the door- very few people entered my room- it was just the nurses, my doctor, and one CNA who was really nice. I didn't hear any other babies. They kept me in the same room until discharge, which was about 9 hours after his birth. My OB had said if they moved me, it would be to antepartum, not post. They were all amazing during the whole experience, which DH and I were very grateful for.
I am super nervous about going back there though in the next couple weeks for Annalise's birth....they do know my situation though, and I won't be anywhere near that room.

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August 22nd, 2011, 07:36 PM
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I was scheduled for induction, so when I arrived there was a nurse and a clerk waiting for me. They scooped me up took me to a special delivery room, far from everyone. I had a wreath on my door, so everyone knew I wasn't have a live baby. When it was time for me to leave they took me out a side door, so I wouldn't have to be wheeled past all the happy mom's w/ their babies. Once I got out, I did have to wait at the curb w/ another happy mom taking her baby home, but they couldn't do anything about that.

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