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August 22nd, 2011, 02:55 PM
HopefulMommy81's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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OK ladies, I am 39 weeks tomorrow! Annalise will make her arrival by the end of the week, no matter what. I am gestational diabetic and my OB doesn't want me to go past 39.5 weeks, so that is Friday, but I don't know the exact day he will bring me in. I am most likely having a c-section due to the fact that at my last two appointments, after I got my cerclage out at 36 weeks, my cervix was thick, high, and apparently somehow now positioned behind my bladder. I have other medical issues myself- I have Spina Bifida and have had multiple surgeries because of it, including some complicated bladder surgeries. My OB was hoping my cervix would move, but my guess is it won't- I'm just not that lucky At the beginning of my pregnancy, I basically had a prolapsed cervix- it was almost hanging out (sorry if that's TMI), so I don't think he thought this would be a problem now. So, a probable c-section it is, with a urologist in the OR with my OB (and me under general anesthesia) to assist and make sure my bladder stays intact and OK.
So my question- how did you do it ladies? How did you calm yourself at all when going in to have your rainbow babies? As it gets closer, I am getting much more nervous and so scared. I have a different situation than most of you, I know- Matthew was 23 weeks, not full-term, and we knew he wouldn't make it through delivery. That isn't making it easier on me though, I don't think- well, maybe it is compared to some people's experiences, but it doesn't feel like it. I am just so worried that something will happen and we again won't have a baby to bring home, or that something will happen to me now with the complicated c-section now thrown in. I guess I'm just asking for prayers and thoughts from you, ladies. I know I will get through this, and I do believe we will have a little girl to bring home and love and raise.
If you've read all this, THANK YOU!

Annalise is hoping to be a big sister on June 28, 2014. Forever missing her big brother, Matthew, stillborn on July 1, 2010.
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August 22nd, 2011, 07:14 PM
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I totally understand how you feel. Carter was only 20 weeks. I'm expecting now, and the idea of going to deliver, just like we did Carter, terrifies me. I have plenty of time to try to get use to the idea. I will thinking of you this week and praying for you. I pray that you have a peaceful, healthy delivery. I'm sure when you hold Annalise in your arms, that your sweet Matthew will be here. Please let us know how it goes.

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August 23rd, 2011, 12:15 AM
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Since I had a stillbirth at 39 weeks, my story was different. Honestly, until I held him my arms, i didn't think I was bringing a baby home. I was so scared the whole time i was pregnant that I just continued with my daily life without getting too much excited. I wish I was able to enjoy my pregnancy .
Anyway, I will be thinking of you this week. Good luck and KUP!

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August 23rd, 2011, 08:54 AM
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I did hypnobabies with Isaac and part of it was listening to positive affirmations about pregnancy and birth every day. I really believed it helped me to have those positive statements in my head every day.
You are getting so close, I know you are scared but try to remain positive. I'm praying that everything goes perfectly and both you and Annalise are healthy and happy.
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August 23rd, 2011, 09:34 PM
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Thank you, ladies! I am scheduled to go in Sunday at 5 pm for cervical ripening and then induction will start early Monday morning! I'm still hoping she comes on her own, but it's nice to have a date if she doesn't.

Annalise is hoping to be a big sister on June 28, 2014. Forever missing her big brother, Matthew, stillborn on July 1, 2010.
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August 24th, 2011, 02:45 PM
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I'm so happy for you Jacque!!! I hope everything goes smoothly and I can't wait for an update!

The closer I get to delivery the more worried I get too...I'm so worried that i've made it this far, and something bad is going to happen...I thought my worry/anxiety would get better after my loss points, but it hasn't...So I don't have any advice since I'm going through the same thing.
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August 25th, 2011, 04:00 PM
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Honestly, with Erin, my first rainbow baby...I was a walking zombie. The only way I could keep from completely falling apart was by not feeling anything at all. But once I got into the hospital for delivery with her ALIVE, I knew there was a much higher chance of getting to take her home. Labor is a relief for me, just to have a living baby during labor.

I pray that both our babies arrive healthy!!
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August 26th, 2011, 05:50 AM
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There is no way to be calm - at least there wasn't for me!
I was so scared in the OR having kaitlin - I just wanted to hear her scream - I was worried that she wouldn't cry - and I was in tears when they pulled her out crying!

just breath when your in there
and think of your little girl
that is all I did.
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August 26th, 2011, 07:13 PM
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Aromatherapy to settle my nerves and celebrity gossip mags to distract me. I was induced and it was along time until we concluded that Grant was happy in there and was not going to come out, so after my epidural I had awhile just waiting around.

I barely remember it. The BP Oil spill was 5 days before he was born, and I didn't know the full story for another 12 days when he came home! I just remember seeing Anderson Cooper on the tv a lot.

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