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February 5th, 2012, 08:35 PM
*Bobbie*'s Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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CaringBridge / Noah Darrohn / Welcome

I don't even know where to begin. I am having a pretty rough time tonight. Just feeling physically and emotionally overwhelmed right now. The funeral home will pick he up tomorrow to be cremated. Maybe once I "have" him back I will feel a little more comfort. I just can't help but feel like this was my fault. He was perfect. There was nothing wrong with him, the problem was with me and my body.
Bobbie mom to : Jeremy (23) Amanda (20) Matthew ( 6) and Daniel (4).... RYAN DAVID 1/4/14 8lbs 10oz 20 3/4 inches!!! My miracle happened!
step-mom to: Stephany (24) and Krista (21)
step-grandma to: Wesley, Rosemarie, Scarlett

On 1/31/12 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon.
If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pictures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
On August 2, 2012 we lost Sarah at 17 weeks. Her pictures can be viewed at http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/sarahdarrohn
There is no known explanation for my losses.

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February 6th, 2012, 02:35 AM
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I'm so sorry... but one day you'll see him again and be able to hold him. I'm sure of it.
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February 6th, 2012, 07:17 AM
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Noah. Unfortunately there will likely be more rough nights ahead, but over time it will get easier. The pain and loss never goes away, but it gets easier to carry. I know it is difficult, but you mustn't blame yourself. I used to hate when the doctors would tell me "Sometimes these things just happen" because I didn't want to feel like my life was devastated by some random bad thing, but sadly it is the truth. There is nothing you could have done, and you did everything you possible for Noah, and if you were given the chance you would have protected and cared for him forever. You were and are a good mom to him, so please be gentle on yourself. ((hugs))

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February 6th, 2012, 09:46 AM
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Hi! I am sorry that you have to be here. I just wanted to offer some support and remind you to be gentle to yourself. Please remember that it not your fault.

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February 6th, 2012, 12:22 PM
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so so sorry for your loss hun, you have come to the right place the suport here is emence.

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February 6th, 2012, 01:13 PM
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Oh Bobbie. I'm so very sorry again. Such a beautiful little boy.
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February 6th, 2012, 07:58 PM
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HUGS! I'm so sorry Bobbie I agree with Laurie, please don't place the blame on yourself (although I must admit that I blamed myself too). I will be praying for you

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February 14th, 2012, 01:23 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss.

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February 16th, 2012, 01:24 PM
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i am sorry bobbie.

I find the hardest thing in our children's death is to put the blame on ourselves for doing somethign wrong somewhere or having that can of pop or having that tylenol - its hard to place what happened and what went wrong - we want to blame someone so we blame ourselves

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May 3rd, 2012, 01:48 PM
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Oh Bobbie, I am so sorry. If there is anything I can do, please message me. Ethan was born at 18 weeks, I'm so sorry we have lost our tiny angels.

Thank you Vicki for my awesome siggy!!

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May 24th, 2012, 09:01 AM
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I am very sorry for your loss. I also blame(d) myself. Somedays are better than others... somedays still seriously stink. Your little angel is sitting on Jesus' lap and is playing with my little man, Graham Jr. God Bless you!

Married to my bestfriend Graham and proud mommy to Codi - 15, Kevin - 13, DJ - 11, Mylyn & McKynlee - 3 & Graham Jr. ~born on Earth, living in Heaven ~ May 9, 2012
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May 24th, 2012, 09:37 AM
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i'm sorry for your loss this brought me to tears.

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