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May 1st, 2007, 12:09 PM
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Bakersfield, CA
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Today I would have been 24 weeks. Which is where my Dr. told me I had to "at least" make it to. I only made it 1 day shy of 21 weeks. Today is that day where I begin questioning. Why couldn't I have held out at least until now. This three weeks has flown by so quickly making it even harder because I realize now how short 3 weeks really is.

I know theres nothing I could have done to make it happen or to prevent it. Truthfully though, I'm sick of hearing that. (no offense to anyone here) Why couldn't something have been done to prevent it? I think that there were ways and it could have been stopped before it got that far, but my Dr. did nothing. Maybe I need a new Dr. or maybe he'd never handled a case llike mine before and now he has and has learned from it for future cases. Who knows who cares I want my Keelie.
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May 1st, 2007, 03:54 PM
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Location: Littleton, CO
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I know the feeling. Not the "making it 3 more weeks" bit, but Cora died because she had the cord wrapped around her neck twice, and a short cord besides, so that when she dropped it cut off circulation.

If we had done an ultrasound...we could have known she was wrapped.

If I had gone to the ER that night when I felt that foreboding feeling like a coworker suggested...

*sigh* Don't you hate unanswerable questions?

I wish it didn't have to end the way it did for us!
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May 1st, 2007, 04:37 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Arizona
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Now that you know the chorioblah blah blah (I had it too) diagnosis, I don't think anything could have been done.

I was told that with that kind of infection, the only treatment is delivery or it can kill the mother because of the internal infection. Antibiotics I don't think can fix it.

I often wonder if my Dr. suspected it was happening, but did not want to say anything because it was terminal in any case so it would have happened regardless of treatment. From the research I did, I didn't see anywhere where there was a survival of the baby. My Dr. knew I would never do anything like an elective termination so maybe he just let nature take its painful course.

Wow, this is so painful to put into words...deep breath....
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May 2nd, 2007, 08:01 AM
Join Date: Mar 2007
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Ah, It's just so unfair. And there's so many what-ifs! What if! What if! I play the What If game daily!
<span style="font-family:Impact">Stephanie</span>
Mommy to Emilee, my baby girl, born sleeping on March 9, 2007. 4 lbs, 14 oz, 19 inches long.

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