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December 4th, 2010, 01:25 PM
NavyWifey's Avatar Super Mommy
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My best friend's brother was killed in a car crash at 18 years old. Carlo was a troublemaker, but he was mostly a good kid. If I'm counting correctly, this will be Carlo's 5th Christmas in heaven.

My friend's mother and I are very close. I lost my birthmother when I was a toddler, and she and I have spent many hours grieving together when nobody else was around. She's been honest with me at every turn... never sheltered me because of my age, or because I'm just a friend of her son. She's been a huge part of my life, and I want to get something for her for Christmas this year, and was considering getting something engraved with Carlo's name. She's never afraid to talk about him, joke about him, and remember him. I don't think I will be causing any undue stress to her by giving her a gift.

On his memorial webpage, his mother left this note, soon after he passed away:

Your beautiful smile, your quick wit, the chaos and joy you brought to our home, the home you helped build!Your amazing base ball abilities, your dreams so close to becoming a reality ...We are so proud of your accomplishments, and yet so truly pained, by the loss of never getting to see you progress to your fullest potential, We love and miss you deeply.

Is there anything that someone has given you for your Angel's that would work for my friend's mom? I'm not going to get anything for babies when her son was 18, of course. I just want to give her something to let her know I love her, and that I'm thinking of her as a fellow mother who has been through a loss.

Siggie by the lovely and talented GraysMama
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December 8th, 2010, 12:10 PM
lulumama's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I received a necklace from a friend from Memorial Jewelry - Sympathy Gifts -Healing gemstone jewelry- Awareness Jewelry when my son died shortly after birth. While the shop carries mostly infant/pregnancy loss jewelry, some of their designs are appropriate, I think, for a mother who has lost a child. Not sure if this would be her style or not.

Forever missing our baby boy, Otis Allen, born September 12, 2010 at 41 wks; left this world 36 hours later.

Blessed with our Maui Miracle - Owen Kekoa, born 9/19/11 at 35w3d!
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