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November 5th, 2011, 09:57 AM
AlexKatieAiden Mommy's Avatar Linda
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I didn't know where else to go to ask these questions and I hope I am not in any way insensitive, that is not my intention. I hope someone can answer this for me since I can't even begin to imagine what you ladies have been through and just want to do what I can for my friend.
I'll start from the beginning. I met my friend about 3 years ago on an autism site and we remain friends to this day. We are both a part of a very small group of autism mommies who have all grown very close. In July her son get E.Coli, which ended up growing into TTP then HUS and alot of other complications. By the end of July things were not looking good, he was on life support and dialisis, and every other type of support. He was having uncontrollable seizures, his kidneys were not functioning like they are supposed too, etc. The doctors were fearing the worst but then he started to slowly recover. About two weeks ago he started a slow bleed from the brain (which they thought was an after effect of all the seizures) and it just went down hill from there. A week and a half ago the doctors told the parents that there was nothing else they could do but keep their little 4 year old boy comfortable until he went to be with God.
I have been trying my best to be supportive, just be there to listen (read), but feel like there is more I could do. Today our group (which is all over the world) is going to release balloons to commemorate such a beautiful life that was taken too soon.
I am into digital scrapbooking and would like to make a beautiful page of her little boy but not sure if it would help or hurt (if you know what I mean)? If a friend made a page about your child would you be touched or would it create more pain? I can't physically be there for her but want to do something special for her.

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November 7th, 2011, 07:11 PM
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I think it is a lovely idea. I love when people do things in honor of my daughter. She may see it and cry but she is going to cry either way. Do what your heart tells you too. Be their for your friend is the biggest gift. Laura Mom to McKenzie and Angel Madison
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June 24th, 2012, 05:41 AM
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I think it is a wonderful idea.
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June 24th, 2012, 08:04 AM
AlexKatieAiden Mommy's Avatar Linda
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Thank you both for your replies! I did end up making her two pages using pictures from from when her son was really young up until he passed. She loved both of them and cherish's them. I'm glad that I made them and that its something that she will have.

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July 24th, 2012, 01:44 PM
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When my son died I did find comfort in tributes others did for my son.

For any practical things you could do for them, I really appreciated gift cards to pizza hut, and Swiss Chalet people sent me. It helped so much during those days I just couldn't get motivated to cook or grocery shop. Especially since I had other children to care for it really helped since they delivered in our area.

Anything you do will be appreciated.
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