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August 19th, 2012, 07:35 PM
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When do you tell your boss? I am a very private person and I would rather avoid telling coworkers at all except for a few. When am I obligated to tell my boss? I work for a rather large company but they still need notice.
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August 19th, 2012, 07:38 PM
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Not sure on obligations. I'm a teacher and have to be observed twice by November so I want to tell my principal as soon as possible so she isn't caught off-guard if I am sitting during my lesson.
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August 19th, 2012, 07:41 PM
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In general, I'm not sure. I told early last time...earlier than I would have preferred, but there are some parts of my job I can't do while pregnant/BF. Now that I'm in a supervisor position, it isn't as urgent this time, but I'll still need to let everyone know pretty soon.

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August 19th, 2012, 07:46 PM
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Well, I think legally you just have to tell them before you give birth, but it's going to be a little obvious by then!

My boss is very cool and is going to be super excited for us. (He's a daddy of 4 and is totally about work-life balance stuff.) Even still, I'm keeping it quiet until I'm through the first trimester. I figure I won't be showing much if at all- especially since it will be starting to be sweater season- so I won't be giving it away physically. And I don't want to get people all in a tizzy until we're through the "scary zone." If I can hold out until the beginning of November- just because there is no reason to tell them too soon.

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August 19th, 2012, 08:34 PM
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I had HG last pregnancy, so I told within a week ir 2 of finding out, because I needed them to understand why I was so sick. I have only been at my current job about 3 months, so I don't have vacation says, but will be needing to leave for appointments, so I am probably going to tell soon so I don't get in trouble. And I work with about 6 other people in a cubicle-sized space, so it will be hard to hide.
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August 19th, 2012, 09:18 PM
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I will be telling soon, tomorrow probably, because I do all the compounding at our pharmacy and I wont be able to while pregnant!! I work with 7 other people and we are all very close! A few of the girls already know!
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August 19th, 2012, 10:29 PM
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My first pregnancy, I didn't tell until I had to at 5 months along. There was a case that was going to court right around my due date so they had to find another attorney to take the case.

With my second pregnancy, I told earlier than I would have liked, I think just after the first trimester. A teacher in our district passed away, and they wanted me to take her position (I had just done my student teaching under her) but I didn't want to take it and have the students end up with three different teachers for the school year.

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August 20th, 2012, 07:45 AM
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Hmm, not sure. My first, I denied, denied, until I couldn't anymore. But hey, I was in college and working in a restaurant. It's not that unusual.

With my second, I had to tell them sooner than I wanted because I had only been working there for a few weeks, and they thought I was going to miscarry so I had to miss some work. With my third, I was at the same company, and I told them very early for 2 reasons - 1) I felt like I was already showing (my 2nd & 3rd are 15 months apart) and 2) my husband and I had decided that I wasn't going back to work after that one because we were going to have 3 needing day care, and that ate one of our salaries completely up.

The last one I told after I heard the heartbeat. The appointment was scheduled for around 11 weeks, but according to my ultrasound, I was actually around 13 so we were in the safe spot.

This time, I am not too anxious to tell. It has just been a year since I had my last one. I am trying to do the training for a higher level role at work, and I fear that this will make them second guess any decision they might make. Additionally, I had lost about 15 pounds from BEFORE where I started when I got pregnant with the last one. That means I have a wide variety of sizes. I'm hoping that it won't be so obvious since I can just keep moving up clothes. And as MaineBean said, soon it will be sweater weather (or at least long-sleeve weather), and those shirts tend to be a little looser and hide more.
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August 20th, 2012, 03:37 PM
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obligated? You're not obligated! Of course it makes things more conveneint for maternity leave if they know you're pregnant.

I'm going to tell my boss when I know the pregnancy is sticking. The thing is there's only four of us waitresses and one is already pregnant. LOL. So I don't know how he's going to take it!

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August 20th, 2012, 03:57 PM
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My boss knows. I work in labor and delivery and they were asking if I could pick up extra shifts.. but with the bleeding i had and the nausea/vomiting.. it was not gonna happen. She's great about it and is super excited.

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August 20th, 2012, 04:15 PM
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Had to tell my boss today because of certain circumstances, but she was amazing. She told me to do whatever I needed to do. If I needed to sit during a lesson or snack then I should do that. It was such a relief.
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August 21st, 2012, 06:39 AM
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If you're in the US and going to be able to take advantage of FMLA time, you are obligated to tell them at least 30 days prior. Again, I would think it would be obvious by that point. I would think that you want to tell before it gets too noticeable that you're showing and everyone starts speculating.
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