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October 23rd, 2012, 08:08 PM
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I need to talk out my feelings to someone who has hopefully been through this. After 4 miscarriages, and no healthy babies... my heart has been so broken. They've all been very early, like 5 weeks or 6 weeks. My first pregnancy made it to the 9th week and I saw the bean and heartbeat on ultrasound. I haven't had any testing but my husband has a little girl so we know he doesn't have any issues. I went in today to get my beta levels and progesterone levels, because my progesterone has been low before. I'm also taking baby aspirin because a few people in my family have had miscarriages and been told to take that and had healthy babies. Its just a shot in the dark.

Half of me wants to worry constantly about the baby, and miscarrying. And, part of me wants to completely ignore that I'm pregnant so I don't get attached.

I don't know how to make it to week 12 worrying this much! I honestly feel awful saying that part of me wants to ignore being pregnant until week 12, but I don't know how to stop worrying. All I do is pray for this baby.

Has anyone else been through this? How did you cope?
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October 23rd, 2012, 08:24 PM
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I have not but I am sure there are ladies that have been there ((HUGS)) hun!! I suggest asking your dr about progesterone shots. They have helped stick early pregnancies with some friends.... I take them 15-35 weeks to help my babies stay put!
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October 23rd, 2012, 08:28 PM
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That's a great idea! I took prometrium pills before, but if it's low (I'll find out in the morning) I'm going to ask my doctor if I can do that! =]
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October 23rd, 2012, 08:56 PM
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Yes! I mc between 1-2. So when I got pg I did not want to get attached. Didn't talk about it didn't think about it. Heart beat didn't help. When I got to 17 weeks I started to calm down. So hang in there. Take the baby aspirin, ask about the progesterone. And pray for your baby!
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October 23rd, 2012, 09:08 PM
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Thank you!
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October 23rd, 2012, 09:24 PM
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It's totally normal. I've had babies in between my miscarriages and I still worry. You might want to check out the pregnancy and motherhood after loss board. Everyone there can totally relate to what you're going through.
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October 23rd, 2012, 10:06 PM
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I was determined with DD2 not to think about it.. not to get attached... not to acknowledge that the pregnancy existed! I couldn't do it, though, and I can't seem to do it this time either. I've lost 5, and all but 1 were in the 1st trimester. I would love to tell you that it gets easier, but in the millisecond that you spot that 2nd pink line you are totally, 100%, head over heels in love with that bean. Just let yourself love it. Otherwise its just going to eat at you. Hugs to you!!
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October 24th, 2012, 04:11 AM
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I am worried too, and I have only had one loss. I am determined to treat this pregnancy as if it was going to be a full term pregnancy. I just know I will regret it if I ignored it for several weeks and then it turned out to be fine. I will feel awful because this may be my last child. So I am trying to enjoy the time I have because I cannot change the outcome if something is wrong.

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October 24th, 2012, 09:14 AM
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i am so worried too, i mc once before my son and 3 times since, we have been ttc for so long it hurts so much, i too am taking baby asprin and have sort of told myself everything is going to be ok because of it, i am so scared i keep telling myself not to get attached but its so hard

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