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October 30th, 2012, 07:39 AM
bobbiejo1982's Avatar Super Mommy
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Just wanted to get everyones opinion. I am so anxious but very early still.
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October 30th, 2012, 07:43 AM
Mrs. D's Avatar Super Mommy
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We waited 11 weeks with DS. That's when the highest risk of miscarriage is supposed to be over.
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October 30th, 2012, 07:50 AM
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It depends. If you expect love and support, go ahead any time. Then you have someone to lean on if thing go badly. If you expect crap and snark, keep it to yourself until you feel confident and strong.
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October 30th, 2012, 08:04 AM
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We wait until 11-12 weeks to tell close friends and family. I told my mom because she was here the day I tested. We will do a facebook announcement probably about 20 weeks, but after 12 weekes it isn't a secret.

Definitely agree with Farmers wife. If you want to tell, then go for it. Some people tell very quickly and that's great too. I'm just not super open with it because I worry about miscarriage.

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October 30th, 2012, 08:12 AM
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I didn't wait at all with my DS1 and DS2 but I was waiting with both of my miscarriages until 12 weeks but never got to that. I actually like telling family early because if something happens at least people know why I am upset. We are waiting with this one until about 10 weeks just because my dad will be visiting then and it will be the first time we will get to tell family in person. Most of our immediate family knows though. I agree with Farmers-wife, if you are going to get support then I think it is great to tell right away but if you are going to get grief then wait to tell. Some of DH's side was pretty upset that we were expecting again and it has really taken a toll on my emotions. I would have much rather waited to tell them until I was farther along.

DS #1 07/08
Miscarriage 01/28/09
DS #2 9/10
chemical pregnancy 06/12
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October 30th, 2012, 08:14 AM
Kalynas_Mom's Avatar Super Mommy
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My advice is only tell people whom you may feel comfortable telling you had a miscarriage. I never thought of it that way until it happened to me and honestly I wished I hadn't told family because they were all so disappointed. Not saying you should expect something bad to happen, I just think when it's still early its best to keep it to close friends and family who will be supportive.
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October 30th, 2012, 08:40 AM
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I think I might tell my kiddos next week after the ultrasound, my aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents around 14 weeks at Christmas, and I'll probably announce on FB after we have our ultrasound at 20 weeks.
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October 30th, 2012, 10:12 AM
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I maybe outed this weekend at my daughters birthday party. I have lots of bloat (I had been loosing weight), and I am so sick. This should be interesting. This is the longest I have held out from my mom.

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October 30th, 2012, 10:23 AM
MrsLat's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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My family knows now... but I have high risk pregnancies, and I need all the encouragement I can get. I will tell my friends and facebook after my first appt on Nov. 16th.
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October 30th, 2012, 10:49 AM
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I have told a few close friends who I would want to tell if I have another miscarriage. I am waiting to tell my immediate family until after my US on Friday hopefully when there is a heartbeat. I will wait longer to tell others and extended family. After having a loss at 16 weeks when I was told after 12 weeks it rarely happens has sort of changed my way of thinking. Im definitely waiting to tell my kids (4 and 3) until after 20 weeks. I can't handle telling my oldest another baby went to heaven.
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