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February 24th, 2013, 09:46 AM
TeresaV's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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So, my MIL was so proud that she saved the crib my 9 year old stepdaughter slept in when she was a baby. I was open to using it, depending on condition and whether it was dropside or not. Even if it was, DH could have fixed that issue. The problem is, when I Googled the model # of the crib, I found out that it was recalled not because it was a dropside, but because the slats were prone to weakening and breaking, creating serious safety hazards for baby. So, obviously there is no way in h*ll I was about to consider putting my child into a crib knowing this. DH agreed.

So, the other day my MIL made a comment to me about how great it is that we don't have to buy a crib. I brought up the recall issue and that we will NOT be using the crib. She looked at me like I had deeply offended her. My FIL pipes in with "well, it was fine the whole time it was used." Really? REALLY??? I'm sure the parents of babies who were victims of these faulty cribs thought the same thing. I was truly disgusted by their lack of concern for their grandchild's safety. I am so thankful that DH will back me up on this, but I am still kind of disappointed at their lack of consideration for my feelings and their granddaughter's safety. Am I overreacting here?

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February 24th, 2013, 11:18 AM
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I wouldn't use it if it had been recalled! I think that you are making the right call on that.

My stepmom saved my little brother's crib (unbeknownst to me) for me to use when I had a baby. It is nothing like the crib I have always wanted. I've always wanted a dark wood crib and I would like for it to be a convertible crib, which the one she saved is not. It's also brass and ugly (in my opinion) and very girlie looking. (I remember thinking that when my brother used it.) So, I just said no. I think she was mad, but I don't care. She never even asked me if I wanted it until I was pregnant! (And my little brother is 8 now!)

I think your MIL will get over it. Maybe if you show her what you found? I don't see how someone couldn't understand wanting your baby to be safe!
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February 24th, 2013, 11:33 AM
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I wouldn't use it either. You are most certainly not overreacting!

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February 24th, 2013, 12:53 PM
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I wouldn't use it either and be upfront for the reasons why just like you, but eh, I don't get upset about things like that or interpret it like grandparent's don't care. I think older generations of people just have a different perspective/mentality about things and not intentionally being mean or whatnot to you. It's great that DH agrees with you! At least that's one battle you won't have!
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February 24th, 2013, 01:39 PM
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I think you are doing the right thing not using the crib, and overreacting to their reaction. From their POV, the crib is just fine and they genuinely don't understand why you don't want to use it again. Your emotional reaction (disgust at the lack of concern for their grandchild's safety) is what could potentially escalate this non-situation.
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February 24th, 2013, 02:30 PM
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No, you're totally right. Maybe part of why she's upset is thinking about how many years she's had to keep the dang thing in storage, lol.

My parents tried to give us the cradle they used with me and my siblings. This thing was HUGE. Easily as big as a regular crib. And it swung. I have a 10x12 bedroom with a queen sized bed. It was NOT going to work. They were very upset when i made them take it back.

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February 24th, 2013, 03:01 PM
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I totally agree with you! I would not use it... It is very hard to deal with the opinions of grandparents though and sometimes they make comments that hurt feelings .... i think that is just the way they are designed! lol... i know that so far my mom has hurt my feelings prob. 15-20 times since i became pregnant! i try to just let it roll because she is just getting a little more bold the older she gets.

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