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March 21st, 2013, 01:38 PM
Maenfayne's Avatar Veteran
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I didn't make a big deal out of announcing the pregnancy on FB basically because everyone close to me already knows. So I just put a simple "My math teacher says 1+1=2 but my doctor says 1+1=3" For the most part I got really sweet congratulations and whatnot.

Then I got the lovely inbox message that sent me from happy go lucky, to bleep bleepity bleep bleep in seconds. My "friend" (honestly I don't even know why I kept her on FB so long, she has since been deleted) congratulated me on getting out of my contract with the National Guard. Said I must be sooo happy to no longer have to stand up to my word and finish what I started. Apparently I'm too chickpoop to enlist now that women can be in combat positions.

What the frack? I mean seriously?! Who the hell actually says that crap? I did NOT purposefully get knocked up so I'd get out of going to basic training. We were using two forms of birth control thank you very much! I was devestated, and quite frankly still am. Sure I can re-enlist afterwards but I wanted to do it now. I don't want to be nearly 30 just going into basic training. Quite honestly there are still times that I break down crying because my plans got shot to hell. But then I suck it up and continue moving forward. Plans change. We evolve. I WANT to serve my country, and I even did a happy dance when they released the news that women could serve in combat. I was going to be a medic, I want to be able to be exactly where I need to be to help those that need it when they need it.

I just want to punch this woman in the throat. She's still stuck in the same deadbeat job she's had for the last four years. Struggling to even pass the most basic college classes, but sure she'll be a nurse one day. HA! I know she's just sending me that message out of pure jealousy and hate but it really really got to me. It was my fear that people would think that I did this on purpose anyway (you know, like the women that magically get pregnant when their unit gets deployed) but I DIDN'T!

Anyway, I just had to rant about this.

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March 21st, 2013, 01:46 PM
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Yay for coming out on FB!! I hate that people think it is even OK to have an opinion....let alone actually speak it! Screw her!

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March 21st, 2013, 01:58 PM
MandersM's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Screw her!

wth is wrong with people!??

Try not to let it get you down. Just think about all those people that sent their sincere congratulations. She can rot in her dead end job while you get on with your life...however YOU want to!!

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March 21st, 2013, 02:04 PM
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What a cute way to come out on facebook! And as far as that woman goes, you have a friend over here who would like to tell her to bite a big one! Seriously, screw her - don't let her steal an ounce of the joy you must be feeling from all of the people who congratulated you.
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March 21st, 2013, 02:09 PM
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I loved how you came out on FB - too cute!!!

As for your friend, some people are so miserable they love nothing better than to spread their misery to others:/ Shame on her for ruining your moment - it is NONE of her business what career path you choose for yourself! People like that just love to suck the life out of everyone else around them. HUGS - do not let her get to you

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March 21st, 2013, 02:48 PM
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OMG screw her, shes jealous perhaps. Its amazing how people jump to conclusions and assume WHY people do certain things.
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March 21st, 2013, 04:04 PM
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Yay for coming out on Facebook!

I cannot BELIEVE someone said that to you. How totally rude. Screw her, indeed!

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March 21st, 2013, 04:27 PM
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That is so rude. Glad you deleted her. With a "friend" like like who needs enemies you know?? That is just unbelievable the nerve some ppl have!
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March 21st, 2013, 06:14 PM
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I guess you should have deleted her a long time ago.... I wouldn't lose sleep over her. She obviously has issues.
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March 21st, 2013, 07:05 PM
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wow, what a jerk!!

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SHHHH!! Don't mention Pregnancy on FB please!!
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March 21st, 2013, 07:45 PM
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Ugh.. some people are just ridiculous. She is jealous... and just wants to try to bring you down. Don't let her! Delete her and forget her!

I loved your announcement too.. cute!
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March 21st, 2013, 08:09 PM
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Do you know whether she is trying to conceive? DH and I tried for 3 years and had two early miscarriages. Over the years it became very difficult to hear everyone's baby news - especially those who got pregnant easily/accidentally. While I tried my best to be supportive, and trust me it was difficult sometimes, I was often consumed by my own emotions (although I tried to keep them away from my expecting buddies). I was never (at least I don't think I was) a jerk to my friends, which it sounds like is the case here, but it may just be that she needs time to come to grips with her emotions. If not, then she's clearly not a friend.
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March 21st, 2013, 09:05 PM
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Wow, that is pretty bold of her. I understand it being a situation to be paranoid about what others think, but you know the truth and it's completely unfair (not to mention insanely rude) to accuse you of something like that when she doesn't know.
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March 21st, 2013, 10:00 PM
Happy Song's Avatar Nicole
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Congrats on your Facebook announcement. I sorry someone upset you.
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March 22nd, 2013, 12:21 AM
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March 22nd, 2013, 07:02 AM
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Congrats on going public on FB!

At least everyone ELSE was supportive! I third what Allie and Manders said, "Screw her!" It just urks the hell out of me that some people try to stick their noses in other people's business and think it's welcome. It takes some guts to say that to someone. Sorry you're having to deal with that. Just chalk it up to stupidity and jealousy! You are way better than that! Just remember all of the people you do have supporting you and your decisions...all of us JM ladies included
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March 22nd, 2013, 08:19 AM
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Wow she is obviously out to hurt you and bring you down. You really should have deleted her long time back! Just focus on all the positive reactions. She doesn't deserve your time That's a cute FB announcement.
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March 22nd, 2013, 06:11 PM
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Thank you dearly for all your support. I'm trying to forget about her but it just keeps popping back into my head.

As far as I know she's not ttc, I don't even think she's had a relationship that's lasted more than a few dates in the past three years that I've known her.

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March 23rd, 2013, 05:31 PM
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Sounds like someone is a little jelous you are moving on in life and she isn't..
Glad you deleted her
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March 24th, 2013, 12:23 PM
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Before I would have deleted her, I would have called her every name in the book; told her to kiss my ____ just to make me feel good lol Some people just don't know how to say congrats and move on.

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