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April 3rd, 2013, 08:57 AM
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Hi all! My name is Bev. It's been awhile since have been around JM. Myson is 6yrs old.

We just found out Sunday that I am pregnant. Went in yesterday to get anultrasound & find out how far along I was. Since I have had irregularperiods my whole life, I didn’t think much of going months without one. Sotruly wasn’t sure of the timing. Well he palpated then did a regular ultrasound& said by these measurements I’d say you’re 17 weeks along. Just crazy!

So now let me give you a little more background about me. This wascompletely unexpected. I am 38 &will be 39 in July. I had a 10cm cyst on my right ovary last year & so thatovary & fallopian tube were removed. I have had MULTIPLE abdominal surgeriessince Jan of 2011 when I was in a bad car wreck that shattered (& I do meanshattered) my pelvis, as well as caused a multitude of other problems. So I waspieced together very well, but have pins & screws, plates & rods in mypelvis that put it back together & is better left alone & not messedwith. I also had gastric bypass surgery back in 2006. So needless to say I am avery unique pregnancy case. I take 1800mg of Gabapentin daily for my chronic nervepain. So that is also something that I am quite concerned about, since it’s aclass C drug during pregnancy & most things I read are about it being moreof an issue in the 1st trimester & here I am already into the 2nd. So I have yet to be able to discuss that withthe OB that will be following me. The one that did the ultrasound was niceenough, but since I am a different doc’s patient, he didn’t seem interested inknowing or talking about anything else besides just finding out how far along Iwas & that things look good as far as he could see.

On top of being humpty dumpty on a physical front, we just moved within thelast 3 weeks. So having another child was definitely a back burner topic. Aftera year & a half of only seeing my husband on the weekends (due to him onlyfinding work 150miles from home) we finally are all living back under the same(smaller) roof. It’s good & bad. Obviously I haven’t been treating myselfor my body like an expectant mom would. All the possible symptoms I had could be attributed to other thingshappening in my life & so pregnancy wouldn’t be the first or even secondthought. No morning sickness, nocravings, nothing that would scream pregnancy at me.

So here we are. Happy, yes, Dazed & confused, yes…Just hoping for ahappy, healthy baby.

This question may be for more of the “older” mom’s but if you wouldn’t getan abortion, would you bother with the CVS or Amnio tests? My husband wants toknow, I know the risks of miscarriage are small, but if the results wouldn’tchange my mind about going through with it or not, I just am not sure if Ishould. Even for his “need to know” attitude.

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April 3rd, 2013, 09:07 AM
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First let me say CONGRATS! If you are thinking about doing the CVS or amnio to test for downs or other genetic issues they have two new tests out now called the Harmony and the Maternit21 that are non invasive. They are also 99+ % accurate.
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April 3rd, 2013, 09:15 AM
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Congratulations and welcome. What a roller coaster you have been through!! I can't imagine what a shocking surprise this pregnancy must have been to you. Here's to a happy and healthy baby for you and I love the timing, now that you are all together under the same roof. My DH and I did that for a while and I know how hard that can be!

Allie has given you great info. Yes please look into those tests. Considering your situation I am sure they will be able to give one of those to you!
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April 3rd, 2013, 09:43 AM
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Welcome!! WOW... you've got alot going on in your life. But, hey- your almost half way there! CONGRATS!

I have had irregular periods too.. and didn't suspect preg, but I do take hpt's regularly since we do not use any preventive methods at all. About the question for the "older" mom's. I definitely qualify. I am 43. I have never gotten any of the genetic testing done. Since I would not consider abortion, there is no sense in risking my baby just to find out if it has downs, etc..(amnio).. also- I wouldn't want to get a false positive or a positive and stress myself out the whole time making things worse.

Again, CONGRATS...!! hope things calm down a bit for you. Happy and Healthy pregnancy!
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April 3rd, 2013, 09:57 AM
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Congrats and welcome!

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April 3rd, 2013, 10:10 AM
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Wow! Congratulations!
I'm not an older mom, I'm only 21 but my doctor runs a quad screen on all of his patience. That's what I would suggest since you've been on meds. It just checks the probability of abnormalities like spina bifida. Abortion is not an option for my family either. But the reason I don't argue they blood test is so if there were a problem I could see a specialist and deliver at a hospital with a NICU (ours doesn't have one)
I don't think it is common to get false negatives with that test but it has been known to throw a few false positives. I think there are other blood test options rather than doing a amnio. Those are basically harmless.
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April 3rd, 2013, 10:12 AM
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Congratulations and Welcome!! I am 39 and have opted to do no genetic testing. If I were to do any it would definitely be the Harmony or the Maternit21, no risks involved.
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April 3rd, 2013, 10:46 AM
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Wow what a surprise! I am no help because I didn't do any of the blood tests.. only the NT scan.

Just wanted to say congrats! Skipping the whole first trimester would have been awesome!
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April 3rd, 2013, 12:03 PM
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Wow, what a shocker! Congratulations on your pregnancy and welcome to the group!
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April 3rd, 2013, 01:43 PM
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Congratulations!! And may I say that I am jealous that you could make it this far without knowing or feeling pregnant?! Wow! That's pretty awesome!

About the genetic testing: In your situation, since your dh wants to "know," I would satisfy him with the Harmony and NST since they are non-invasive. Other than that, I would personally not agree to an amnio because 1) it kinda freaks me out... putting a needle through your abdomen and clear into your uterus near the baby - no thanks, 2) more than that, it does carry a risk of miscarriage and I would not risk my baby's life to know "for sure." Especially when there are other tests now, I would just do the other tests if you do any. Personally, I didn't bother with any of them, but a blood test can't hurt anything.

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April 3rd, 2013, 03:03 PM
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Congrats on your pregnancy!! I'm also wondering what finally made you suspect.

I'm an older mom who didn't have an NT scan and is going with MaterniT21 (It's the same as Harmony, but reveals the sex as well), so I agree with the other ladies - the less invasive, the better.
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April 3rd, 2013, 03:04 PM
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Hi Bev - congrats!!! I had a bit of a shock with this pregnancy too - found out I was almost a month further along than my array of doctors (REs) thought I was, so I understand how disorienting it is to suddenly find yourself here.

In response to your question - I could be wrong but I think you're already too far along for CVS (I believe my high risk ob only performs them up until maybe 14 weeks?), so amnio is usually what's done at this point in pregnancy. I personally would want some insight into whether baby could potentially have special needs (primarily for planning/preparing and because in some instances it helps the doctors & hospital know to have specialists present for the birth) - but before rushing to amnio I would definitely ask your doctor if one of the newer blood tests (Harmony, etc) or quad screen can be done first...based off those results you can decide if you need a more definitive answer via amnio.

Good luck to you whatever you decide test wise & welcome to the group!!

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April 3rd, 2013, 03:10 PM
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Thank you everyone! I appreciate the feedback. I hadn't heard of those tests. Sounds like a definitely better option. For me knowing would be more to know what hospital would be the best place versus would I keep the baby.

Kind of strange to me to be so far along already. Almost 1/2 way through. WHOA! Thankfully our son is excited for either a brother or sister. So that helped add happiness to the shock & awe.

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April 3rd, 2013, 03:25 PM
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OK, what finally made me get a HPT is my DH mentioning that my breasts seemed fuller & heavier. I had the thought cross my mind a while ago, but I just thought it was weight gain from no excercise and not eating great. With moving, figuring what to do with our house, me losing my job of 10 years, packing by myself and taking care of our son. I thought roller coaster emotions, exhaustion, depression & gaining weight had multiple other reasonable explanations besides pregnancy. Plus Colin was a Clomid baby. I either didn't ovulate or rarely did so wih him we had to try with medication for him. So I seriously didn't think pregnancy after that & only having 1 ovary & seeing my DH rarely. Just semed far fetched. But here we are.

So I do believe we are meant to have the 2 kids we talked about. After the accident & the ovary thing, we had kinda figured ou family was what it was going to be.

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April 3rd, 2013, 05:19 PM
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Congrats. brings me back to when I found out of #4. I was about 3-4 months along to, breastfeeding and didn't think anything of it . lol what a blessing.
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April 3rd, 2013, 05:48 PM
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I thought I would mention if you want to do the quad screen it has to be done in the 17th week

Or before
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April 4th, 2013, 09:19 AM
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Oh, wow! What a story! Congratulations on your surprise little one, though, and welcome!

I have no advice on the genetic testing, but the other ladies have already offered a lot of great input.

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