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September 2nd, 2013, 01:45 AM
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Share the secrets girls!
So what have you done to keep it spicy?

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September 2nd, 2013, 03:04 AM
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I'm a failure here in this area. I need help and motivation:-(

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September 2nd, 2013, 04:18 AM
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Nothing I have been really bad on remembering my pill and still have some bleeding with the prolapsed uterus. DH goes for his "V" on the 20th. I am afraid to death of getting pg again - so cuddling is spicey for us.

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September 2nd, 2013, 05:51 AM
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Our sex life has been awesome since McKinley has been born...not sure if its cause we know we can't get pregnant again or what but whatever it is I'm not complaining!

We have been sneaking in some afternoon delight when he comes home for lunch (as long as the kids are all asleep of course). I bought some new lingerie the other day but I'm keepin it hidden and secret until our anniversary in 2 weeks. We have been playing with toys a lot and breaking out all the positions that had been collecting dust over the last year or so. We have even been experimenting with some new stuff (I won't go into detail here but if you are that curious feel free to message me and I will be more than happy to brag all about it lol).

Long story short, I am thrilled with our sex life right now...especially after not getting any for most of my pregnancy. The only thing I would improve on is frequency. But with 3 little kids in the house, I think we are doing pretty good to get what we're getting lol.

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September 2nd, 2013, 06:22 AM
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I have to beat my husband off with a stick.

Is anyone else having problems with sex being painful? He isn't small but he isn't porn star big either. It hurts pretty bad unless I remember to grab the lube, but we usually forget.

I'm also lacking sex drive. I am sure it has something to do with the post partum medication (THAT IS ALSO MAKING ME GAIN WEIGHT!!!!) and sleep deprivation.

So I suppose, just letting him into the wonderland keeps things spicy enough for him. I don't have the heart to admit I am not interested.

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September 2nd, 2013, 06:46 AM
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I have the same problem Tania (minus the pp med). I have no drive whatsoever so I tend to make sure I'm extra tired at bedtime or in bed before him or something like that so he doesn't try anything. I feel bad but I don't want him to think its him.

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September 2nd, 2013, 02:32 PM
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Holy crap! I need the sex now!! I never had issues with lack of sex drive, prego or not, so I've been ready since I came home from the hospital. However, there was the c/s recovery to go through but then he had to return to Maui before I felt physically ready.

To keep things spicy in a day to day basis, I try to keep intimacy awake by touch and physical proximity. Everyone wants to feel desired, including men, so I always make effort to keep contact. A subliminal way of letting him know I want him. Grabbing his hand to hold, a graze of the hand on his tush or chest or lower back, a quick kiss on a non sexual area like his shoulder. Its great foreplay too

Ashleykathleen - that sounds awesome & I'm super jealous!! What kind of toys do you use? There are a few I've been eyeing. Back in the day, I tossed all my toys when I moved to Hawaii cause I had nightmares about TSA finding my loot in my baggage! Haha!

When I see DH again, I'll be bringing all kinds of sexy back!

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September 2nd, 2013, 02:53 PM
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I have zero interest. ZERO. It is still uncomfortable for me, even with lube. Not that my sex drive was ever great, but now it's terrible. I give in sometimes so DH doesn't get too frustrrated, but I know he wants to do it more than we do.

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September 2nd, 2013, 02:55 PM
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Yeah, the last time we dtd was when we conceived Arthur... But it's not that big a deal to us. Sex has never been a large part of our relationship. Cuddling, holding hands and spending hours talking and debating social and academic issues are way more intimate to us than sex ever is. Someday we'll both be up for it again, but I'm really not too concerned about it.

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September 2nd, 2013, 04:43 PM
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I won't be DTD again for awhile because of my pubic bone injury. I can't spread my legs and the whole bone around there is very delicate and hurts when it gets, uh, bumped. I have been making some effort to satisfy DH in other ways though. He has more needs in that area than I do right now, lactation hormones tend to kill my sex drive!

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September 2nd, 2013, 06:22 PM
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Originally Posted by sunnydaze View Post
I have to beat my husband off with a stick.
Sounds painful for him.

I have no advice. I'm rarely in the mood. *sigh*

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September 2nd, 2013, 07:05 PM
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SO and I have been doing okay. Not as much as before the baby, but still 3 times a week at least. I've had a few issues with it just not feeling good, but a little extra foreplay has seemed to do the trick. We're pretty boring when it comes to sex, but it works for us. Haha. Since the baby takes naps in our bedroom, we've taken up doing it on the floor in the nursery. Does that make us terrible people? haha.

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September 2nd, 2013, 09:52 PM
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Today I winked at him. I'm sure it thrilled him to the core, lol
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September 2nd, 2013, 10:23 PM
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My DH and I have seriously only have DTD once since I've had Tristan. Usually because we are both too tired by the time the kids are in bed. Nap time doesn't work out for us either as he is always at work when both kids manage to nap at the same time. On the weekends without fail the kids manage to tag team nap. We are down to hallway sex. That's where we say e*f*f you to each other as we pass each other in the hallway lol. Although I let him grope my breast in the car the other day(mostly cause I was daydreaming and didn't realize what he was doing) and I think that made his whole month lol

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September 3rd, 2013, 12:36 PM
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We have been doing pretty good in that department We usually DTD twice a week or so.. that is the way it has always been.

I was struggling to get in the mood also and it was really taking a toll on our relationship but I have been trying to make more of an effort lately. I make sure that I do my makeup and get ready each day, even though I am a stay at home mom. I wear my sexy panties every day I am not on my period and make sure my lady bits are cleaned up , lol. Doing this at least makes me feel prettier and more confident. So at that point I am "open to sexy stuff" but not necessarily in the mood haha!

In order to get in the mood, I usually have a glass of wine or something to relax and then let DH take in from there. Sometimes it takes a little bit of effort to get there.. but once we start foreplay stuff I usually get into it.

We each created "sexy bucket lists", (things we wanted to try in the sheets) and we aim to try and accomplish one of the things on the list each week. Its been pretty fun
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