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September 26th, 2013, 07:46 PM
Cortney6983's Avatar Cortney
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So lately (past week) I have been feeling down because lately Lilly has been getting scared of a lot of people even my parents and my aunts who live with us and she sees often...I know it's normal to go through that stage but I don't get why my parents are scary to her now... I feel like everyone who sees her as she gets scared and cries acts like they have never seen a baby cry... it makes me feel bad I try to tell them that it's normal but even my mother will look at me funny like "whats wrong with her?" which bugs me because people who have had kids (my family) act like oh wow.... that's odd... why is she crying at me??? just sick of having to explain that some babies go through this stage of being scared easy

I just feel like cuddling Lilly and not being around anyone tired of people judging her because she is not the same as every child (not saying as there is something wrong with her) she is just different which is fine with me, she is a fussy baby she has been since day 1, she has a loudddd cry ! she is hard to please but that makes her unique !

I love her more than anything !

sorry for the rant

just please tell me someone else has gone through this before ??

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September 26th, 2013, 09:41 PM
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I am from Marchs PR just looking at others but anyway my baby has been going through this she is not scared of everyone but she is scared of a lot of ppl and wants me all the time.
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September 27th, 2013, 01:31 AM
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Darion is definitely a Mommy's baby right now. He cries when my mom, sister, her husband, my brother.. on and on and on come over. He just doesn't want to deal with all of the people who aren't me or DH. He even cries with DH sometimes and just wants me.

I've been working with him a bit and when my sister came over on Tuesday he cried like crazy. So I sat next to my sister with him and we sang songs to him.. (He LOVES singing and dancing) and after he BFed and it was time to eat his carrots I let my sister feed him and talk to him and he calmed down. I also pumped the milk for that next feeding and let her feed him from the bottle and then he seemed cool with her for the rest of the day.

I don't know how he will be when he sees her again. But its definitely a major phase that a lot of babies go through when they become more aware of their surroundings. Only mommy will do, and OK.. I guess daddy is cool too. *lol*

But you aren't alone. Don't let other people's reactions get you down. She will outgrow it.

Sometimes I feel so selfish because I FEEL ok (even great) with him being this way. Where he wants me mostly. I feel like, soon enough, he will be a teen or preteen and want very little to do with Mommy... So I'm loving the "I want my Mommy" phase.
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September 27th, 2013, 06:43 AM
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I hope it gets better for you soon.
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September 27th, 2013, 02:33 PM
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September 28th, 2013, 05:12 PM
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Cole has been like this lately too. Even with DH, my mom and sister who he is around alot. When he sees me and someone is holding him he looks at me, cries and reaches for me. I think it's normal at this age for them to want mommy the most.
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September 28th, 2013, 07:17 PM
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You would think DH is the boogeyman. At least if I'm around, she pretty much only wants me. She will see me across the room and instantly it's tears and whining and reaching for me.

What can I say, I guess I'm pretty great.
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September 28th, 2013, 10:05 PM
jen747's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I don't blame you one bit for being annoyed. It seems like every time you turn around, you have to defend, explain, or rationalize things about your baby. I sincerely hope that you guys find your own home, where you can just be a mom & take care of your child your way with no excuses neccessary.
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September 28th, 2013, 10:45 PM
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^ I could not agree more!

I seen nothing wrong with her wanting you more than anyone else. I also see nothing wrong with you doing absolutely nothing to change that. I can assure you this too shall pass and much, much too quickly at that. It is never easy when you are in a stage to see that there is indeed going to be an end to that stage. Maybe she isn't scared at all maybe she just wants to be with her mom. Enjoy her and try not to let anyone ruin it
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October 4th, 2013, 08:31 AM
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Sorry you're feeling down about it! It does sound fairly normal, though. I remember Grace going through a phase (well, multiple ones over the years) where she got really fussy when others wanted to hold her. In some ways it gets better over time, but in other ways, as they get older, they sometimes become MORE cautious of others. Hang in there...as frustrating as it can be, it's all part of it!
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October 8th, 2013, 12:55 PM
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She's just a mommys girl it's normal and a sign she's bonded well c is goodnw outhers until she sees me leave or hears me then all bets are off
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