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March 27th, 2010, 08:18 PM
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What do you all do regarding eating at others' homes....specifically birthday cake. Do you bring something different for your child to eat? Do you expect the host to prepare something keeping your child's allergies in mind? (allergy free) Does it depend on who the host is? (ex family vs school friend). Thanks!
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March 28th, 2010, 09:25 AM
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What works really well for us is for me to make a big batch of allergy-free cupcakes, and I freeze them. Then when I know we have a party coming up, I pop one out of the freezer and into the fridge, and let it defrost slowly, then before the party heat it a little and put some kind of frosting on it and take it with me to the party. When I have time, I ask the host if its vanilla or choc. cake so I can take one that will match the other kids. I use this for all parties, whether its family or friend.

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March 29th, 2010, 09:21 PM
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We make people cook with allergies in mind, lol.

For dinners, there are some things (like my onion and pork allergies) that are not even optional on whether someone can ignore it or not. They HAVE to keep it in mind, otherwise I can't even go into their house.

In the case of cakes and ice creams, we expect family to cater to allergies, but wouldn't expect friends to do so... my family is great about it, DH's family isn't so much, which is odd considering DH's family has a higher number of severe allergies than my family does. When the next round of birthdays with friends comes, I'll probably make a little batch of cupcakes to freeze for Rebecca so we have something we can take along for her to have some cake too.
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March 30th, 2010, 12:36 AM
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We entertain here rather than going to others homes. That way I know beyond any doubt what my children are eating. However, since dh is in the military, we find ourselves "having" to attend potlucks from time to time. I take one of the name tags and write "My name is Kasi and I have food allergies. DO NOT FEED ME". Luckily she's small enough that she LOVES to show off her 'sticker' so the other adults see it and don't offer her some of their food. With 4 kids (3 of whom always want to go in opposite directions as soon as we get there), I can't always keep Kasi in sight to see what she's eating, so the sticker helps. I have also been known to make an announcement asking the adults not to feed other peoples children (I'm not the only mom of a child with allergies).

We haven't had to deal with bday parties much... mostly invites from our neighbors, and they understand when I have to decline (they were having a pizza party, Kasi LOVES pizza and doesn't understand yet why she can have pizza at home but not pizza anywhere else). For my 15 year old, most of her friends parents have actually made sure there were treats that she could eat at bday parties, some even made a gluten free cake for their kids party and everyone at it instead of having something seperate.

I don't expect anyone to accomodate my children but I am always grateful when they do, and if they can't/won't then I plan ahead to make sure there is something for my girls... or we don't go.

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March 30th, 2010, 05:43 AM
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I never trust anyone. Everytime I have had someone say they baked "allergy free" for us.. I catch some ingredient that really isn't. i honestly just find it safer to always bake seperately.. sometimes I just would ask my ds what he would want.. other times I would bake something for everyone to have, but then I ran into people sticking the same cutter from their thing in it and then my ds not getting it.. then people getting angry on why I jumped when a dairy/egg knife went into our food.. people can be so insensitive

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March 30th, 2010, 12:33 PM
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I bring my own food for Luc. Luc has multiple food allergies so it would be difficult to expect others to accommodate him. He knows that he can't have most foods b/c he is allergic. He recently started saying that he wishes he is not allergic to something. It makes me sad.

I have been pleasantly surprised by a couple of friends who have made things with Luc in mind, by using his special soy sauce or reading ingredients.

Melissa, that is an awesome idea about using a name tag. Simple yet effective. I am going to have to steal that idea. I have tons of name tags leftover from my teaching days. Thanks!

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March 30th, 2010, 12:37 PM
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I always cook separately. If we go out to eat somewhere, Danny has his own plate in my bag that he eats at the resaraunt. If we go to family or friends I bring a plate no matter what and if there is something he can have I will let him but otherwise we always have the plate just incase. For birthday parties, family and friends don't know how to cook around his allergies and haven't been interested in learning so we just freeze chocolate chip cookies and allergen free cupcakes and take one with us... I have found that so much less stressful and it keeps people off my back for asking to see ingredient labels for everything from mixes to spices...

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March 30th, 2010, 05:03 PM
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yea, on families-the other week my SIL said that ds could have the cake since it had real strawberries in it. Nevermind the eggs milk and soy the MIX she made it with had in it!!

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March 30th, 2010, 08:39 PM
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Exactly... people that aren't used to allergies and get a bit pigeon holed when there are multiple allergies...with Danny they will avoid something that says milk but not casein or whey...etc... Or avoid soy but not milk or vic versa.. That is why we always have his food.

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April 13th, 2010, 02:47 PM
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we always bring something for our kids although I've had friends tell us not to worry and have a special cup of small oreo bites for my dd....My friends understand how crazy it can be and have seen when she has had a cross contamination...My friends are actually more careful than my family...my sister freaked out with what to feed my dd when i was sent to the L&D floor while preggo.

But I do like the sticker idea for big things I may steal that idea!
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April 14th, 2010, 09:36 PM
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If its close family then they will always make something separate for Isaiah that they know he can eat. Usually just pasta, chicken hot dogs, things that are 100% safe. If its a party or people we don't know well I will bring food for him. Usually people will offer to provide something for him but I always say I don't want to trouble them, but really I just don't trust it!
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April 20th, 2010, 02:59 PM
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i bring food along with me..... friends or family. i feel better knowing that I made it and that I KNOW it's safe for her to eat, ya know.

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April 26th, 2010, 08:09 PM
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Our close extended family (my parents, DH brother ect) are super good about being careful what they feed Will and when we eat at their house they will save out veggies or meat for him before they add butter or whatever to it.

The thing that worries me the most are things like church potlucks where there is so much food around. We usually bring something that he can eat but it is getting harder because when he sees what everyone else has he wants it and he's only 2 and doesn't really understand why he can't have what everyone else has. I usually keep a container of canned chicken rice that is allergy friendly in the diaper bag so that if we are somewhere that I'm not sure what's in the stuff I'll heat that up for Will. I also always try to grab some of his cookies if I know that other people will be eating dessert around him so that he doesn't throw a fit about not getting something sweet.
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