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February 27th, 2009, 03:35 PM
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Well I'm curious to know what everyone's opinion of a large family is. DH and I are TTC #4, and this will be our last. IMO 4 is larger than typical but still in the range of sanity. Some of our friends with only 1 or 2 kids think we've lost our minds but I can't understand why they only wanted 1 kid any more than they can understand why I want 4.
So in today's society where people no longer have 10+ kids to work the farm, what IS large?
My definition of large is 6 or more, and that would just be so fun.
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February 27th, 2009, 03:41 PM
MotherFrog's Avatar lost in la la land
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Where I live any number above 3 is a large family, they think I'm nuts for wanting a 6th. IMO if you can provide for them and can keep up with them, the more the merrier! Kids are a blessing.

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February 27th, 2009, 08:45 PM
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I think 4 or more is a big family. I think that what is big also depends on your own situation. For me as a single mom I think 4 is a huge family. If I was married and in a better financial place, and didn't need to do IVF I would be trying for 5 or 6 kids.
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February 28th, 2009, 02:37 PM
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I say 4 or more. But, everyone has their own definition. I have four and am TTC #5.

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March 1st, 2009, 12:12 PM
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I look at my 5 and dont think that is large. But I look at people with 7 or more and think that is large. I dunno. We want 7
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March 3rd, 2009, 09:00 AM
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I think it's safe to say we have an x-large family lol. I had #12 on the 11th of Feb. We're kicking around the idea of #13 next year

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March 4th, 2009, 03:07 PM
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I think 7 or more kids .

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March 4th, 2009, 10:55 PM
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Yea that definitely qualifies as large by any standards! That's incredible, congrats.
Sometime, I'll have to pick ya'll brains about how to budget better and manage a house more smoothly!
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March 8th, 2009, 05:33 AM
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the more the merrier. we have 4 and are ttc #5! i say if you can support them and care for them and want them, have all you want!
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March 8th, 2009, 02:23 PM
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Hi all I am new here but wanted to pop in as the mom to six kiddos that I think 4 or more is considered large, however like some others have mentioned, nowadays 3 seems to be large for many. I also think large families are wonderful. Not always easy (or quiet!) LOL and it can be challenging to find mommy & daddy quiet time once you have teenagers running around, but teens also make great babysitters! Years ago large families were more typical. I encourage it if you are up to it, it feels wonderful to have such a clan!

Mommy to six
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March 11th, 2009, 06:55 PM
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When i had Alivia(#4)everyone thought I was NUTS.I thought they were nuts for thinking that.So many comments like,are you done yet,are you pregnant again.i want to say "yes"just to get a reaction.

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March 11th, 2009, 09:40 PM
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Considering most of the people we know have 1 or 2 children (a couple have 3), i'd have to say 4-5 is a large family...I think that I am the only one in the group of people we know (one of the very very few at my kids school) to have 4 kids...I haven't even told anyone that I want to go for 5, who knows what people will say lol...I think i'd rather just shock everyone lol
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March 19th, 2009, 11:42 AM
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I have 5 kiddos. To me it's not a lot To just about everyone I see outside of family act like I have MANY!! For me I think 9 or more would be large! We're planning on having 7-8 (God willing)
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April 22nd, 2009, 10:52 AM
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I think 4 or more would be considered large to most people...6 and over I consider "big"
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April 23rd, 2009, 09:20 AM
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I think that alot of people think 2 kids is perfect, anything more is big.
Having 4 and hopefully another or 2 , I think big is 6 kids or more.
With what we have now, I don't look at us like a big family..Maybe because it's so right and normal to me?

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May 7th, 2009, 10:57 AM
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We are expecting #8 nobody knows yet. We are keeping it a secret until we find out what it is! But I think 6 or more would be large. Mega is what I would call all you amazing mamas with 10 or more!

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May 7th, 2009, 06:31 PM
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I have 3 and am praying really hard for #4 and #5. With me being 40, I don't know how much time I have left. But we are trying!

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May 10th, 2009, 10:32 AM
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I think 4 children and up is a large family.
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May 11th, 2009, 08:21 AM
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Hi~ I'm just a lurker here. I come from a family of 5 kids and I never considered us a big family at all. (We were pretty spread out, though... the oldest was 15 when the youngest was born).
DH and I just had our 1st child in January, but we are hoping for 6 kids eventually. I would consider anything over 6 a "large" family, but I know that society as a whole considers anything over 3 pretty big, so I guess it's just a matter of opinion/ perception. I do think when the siblings are more closely spaced, it makes the family seem "bigger" somehow. My cousin had 5 kids in 7 years and it does seem like she has a "ton" of kids. My mom had 5 kids in 15 years and it didn't really ever seem that way to me. I would like them closer together though! I know it will be tough, but I'm game!
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May 16th, 2009, 07:48 PM
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I'm a lurker too. I think 4 is a larger family. I'm currently expecting our 4th (#2, one of our twins passed away at 9 months old) so with the 3 on earth, I think we'll still qualify as average. Most of my friends have 3 children. I plan to have one more. We got a late starte, just months after my 29th birthday, and we'd said we'd stop when I'm 35. I think I can squeeze one more in before that.

So far the reaction from our families has been great. My mom sighed and said, but this is such a long drive- because I live in VA, and they in AL. They travel alot, and I know another grandchild is another they don't have in their lives everyday.
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