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September 26th, 2008, 10:01 PM
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I suffered my 4th miscarriage in a row yesterday. I cried a bunch yesterday but thought I was handling it okay today. When it just hit me again. I am grieving for the baby I just lost, grieving for the three before, and I am devestated and confused by what has happened to my fertility. I am losing hope for a forth baby. Maybe I am being greedy.. I see so many on here struggle to have 1 baby and I blessed with three little boys.
Though it took us a little while to get pregnant with them all, I had three healthy pregnancies in a row. Then 4 losses. They all appear to be for different reasons: anacephaly, early loss/chemical, blighted ovum, early loss/low progesterone. I was on supplements for the progesterone but it may have been too late.
I am surrounded by newborns right now (friends and family) and it hurts like hell. All I want is another baby. My initial reaction was to stop TTC all together, but now I think we will take a break and I will try to lose weight so I can be in better health next time.
I just want to curl up in a ball and cry for days.

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September 26th, 2008, 11:24 PM
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aww hun I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I'm like you, my losses have been for seperate reasons, so I don't have anything to go by when I try again.


I'm doing the weight loss thing too. I want to be in shape and healthy when I'm blessed with another baby.... and I'm bringing that one home.
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September 27th, 2008, 12:22 AM
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Oh sweetie - I am so sorry. I don't think it is greedy for ANYONE to want a baby as long as they want it for all the right reasons...like to add to your family & to love to pieces - like YOU do. We all walk different paths - but share an understanding of the pain of loosing a baby. Before I had DS I longed so much to have a baby. Now that I have him I feel eternally blessed to have a baby to bring home and raise - but that doesn't mean I don't want more babies & I am not ungrateful for what I have for feeling like that. We all have some idea of what we want our family to include & if you had 10 kids & wanted more & could take care of more - then it is your right to pursue that & it isn't a sign of being ungrateful for what you have - it is simply to me a sign of how much you love being a mom.

I am so sorry you are going through this again. It is so tough to try & keep your heart from falling into a million pieces & moving forward day by day. We are here for you & I am praying for some comfort for you as you try to heal & recoup.

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September 27th, 2008, 05:51 AM
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I'm right where you are. The feeling of guilt is hard to deal with, you think you should be happy with the children you have but you feel like someone is missing.


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September 27th, 2008, 12:34 PM
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I am very sorry for your losses!
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October 1st, 2008, 09:27 AM
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I'm so sorry! One of the things I've learned about loss is that it doesn't care who you are, whether you already have children or not, how much you want a child (or another one), etc. And whether or not you have children already, loss hurts. And it's OK for it to hurt.

As I've watched ladies come to this board, I've also noticed that each loss hits you differently and you have to take it for what it is and how it makes you feel in order to work through it. So if this one is making you sadder or more teary than others, that's OK. Give yourself as much time to grieve and work through your feelings as you need. And be kind to yourself.
Do not sorrow; the joy of the Lord is your strength." Neh. 8:10
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October 2nd, 2008, 05:57 PM
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Sweetie I am soooo sorry!!! ((((HUGS))))
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