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December 27th, 2008, 07:27 AM
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i never thought i'd be joing the TTCAL board, let alone the "recurrent" loss board. i got my 2nd bfp on christmas eve and started spotting christmas day. so now i'm actively bleeding and losing my 2nd pregnancy in 3 months. at christmas. i'm beginning to think with the others that this just isn't going to work; my body apparently doesn't know that this is what it was made to naturally do.

BFP 9/4/09 - Michael John born 5/5/10
ectopic w/tube closure 3/24/09, 8w0d
2nd m/c 12/27/08, 5w2d
1st m/c 10/12/08, 4w6d
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December 27th, 2008, 07:49 AM
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Oh, sweetie, I am so sorry. I welcome you to the board with great sadness. We have a very loving group of girls here, and I hope that you will find the support you need. If you ever need anything feel free to PM me. You can go straight to my profile from the top of the board.

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December 27th, 2008, 09:38 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. It is very hard to keep hope when you are dealing with an additional loss. It is so normal to be questioning the entire thing at this point. I think it makes it extra hard to deal with at the holidays as well. For now just focus on your own healing & going through your feelings. It is important to allow yourself the time to grieve & to try to get your feet back under you. If you are willing to open up & share I am sure you will find the women here to be as loving & supportive as I & many others have. Much love.
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December 27th, 2008, 03:17 PM
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I am sorry for your lost. But happy to tell you that you might have lost the second because your body wasn't healed. Looking at it you could have gotten pregnant around six weeks after your first pregnancy or so, so maybe all you need is a little time.

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December 27th, 2008, 03:59 PM
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I am so sorry for your losses. It is so hard to go thru one, especially at the holidays. The ladies here are a great group of people with some great big shoulders to lean on.
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December 27th, 2008, 11:19 PM
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(((hugs)))) I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope you will post here often.
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December 28th, 2008, 07:01 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear about both losses. I've had two myself and I know how you feel about your body not knowing what it's doing.

But your body does know and it will do it in time. Some doctors and many RE's recomend waiting MINIMUM of 3 months after a m/c or chem to TTC so your body can heal. My last m/c was in April and until I went on BC in November I'd yet to have a regular cycle, which means either I've advanced to PCOS (which I have not) or I had not healed (which was the case).

Give yourself some time, and stop POAS before AF is due! I swear, half the RPL we experience ends up being chemcials. Personally, I'd rather NOT know I was pregnant, than know and have a chemcial (I've had several), and I've heard that from a lot of my friends who've had them too. What you don't know, can't make you cry.

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