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January 1st, 2009, 09:13 AM
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How far along will you start feeling like this is it, this baby is here to stay, in your next pregnancy? What landmarks are you looking forward to?

I think 11 weeks I'll start feeling good. That's after the weeks gestation I had all of my losses. Then when I can feel movement I'll really feel secure!
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January 1st, 2009, 10:51 AM
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Probably the day I get to hold it in my arms. lol. I'm going to be one of those women who's parents are assembling the nursery while I'm on my way home from the hospital.

One of my close friends has had a still birth, so I won't settle until I've passed the gestation when her daughter passed, and that's 27 weeks.
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January 1st, 2009, 11:08 AM
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I'm not sure...No sooner than 12 weeks, but maybe not even then.

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January 1st, 2009, 04:25 PM
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Unfortunately I think we all have lost the priveledge of ever feeling completely safe. The only pregnancy I ever felt safe was my first when I was so naiive that anything could happen to ME. Right now I am a mess. I am trying to stay as possitive as possible but I definately don't feel safe. Tomorrow is my first u/s. I think after seeing a HB I will feel a little bit better but my real milestone is my 8w u/s. That is the one I have never gotten past. I have never had a 6w one so this is a first. I guess I will take one step at a time and feel a little better after each milestone. Of course I will not be able to feel completely at ease until I am holding a healthy TERM baby in my arms...and then a whole new set of worries will set in!
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January 1st, 2009, 10:22 PM
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I never felt safe during my pg....not until he was here. I literally was nervous to allow my niece to be in L&D with me because all I could think was that I didn't want her there if something bad happened. I don't think all women feel that scared, but I did. That isn't to say I didn't enjoy any of it - I did - but I was definitely pretty on edge the whole time.
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January 2nd, 2009, 01:23 PM
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For me...the fear of miscarriage leaves after 12 weeks. Now that I am 16w though I have new fears. They never go away.....I wish I was able to enjoy my pregnancy, but it is a no go for me.
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January 2nd, 2009, 08:24 PM
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I'm 20 weeks pregnant right now and still feel like something is going to go wrong. I think I'll feel safe when I'm holding my little girl in my arms.
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January 3rd, 2009, 12:56 AM
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In all honesty, with Gaby that fear never REALLY went away... I was anxious right the way through. Once I got past 12w & knew the risk of m/c had dropped, I started stressing about having a late miscarriage - and then stressing about having a stillbirth. Even the day of her birth I was freaking out that she was going to die

I HOPE that next pregnancy I feel a bit less anxious, knowing that I have already had 1 happy & healthy baby.. but yea, I have anxiety issues so don't know that will happen!

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January 3rd, 2009, 11:39 AM
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I don't know that I'll ever feel safe. My doctor says once he gets me to 6-8 weeks I'll be fine, so I'll breathe a big sigh of relief then, but the fear I don't think ever goes away......it just changes.

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