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January 2nd, 2009, 08:19 PM
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Hi I'm new here. I've been a lurker for a while and finally got the nerve to post. I've gone thru three miscarriages one at 4 weeks in oct 03, one at 71/2 weeks in nov 07 and one at 10 weeks in june of 08. The first loss was a chemical pregnancy, the second and third they gave me no explanation. I saw a heartbeat with both on ultrasound. The doctor I had at the time was cruel. he wished me luck on staying pregnant ever again and refused to do any test. I am currently 20 week pregnant, under a different doctor and have gestatinal diabetes diagnosed at 9 weeks. I still have no answers as to what caused my losses. I have three other children two who were preemies. I'm so sad and angry still. My edd from my last loss was Jan 9 and I don't know if I can handle it. In july of last year I was hospiitalised for severe depression on what would have been my due date. I would be grateful for any advice on how to handle this due date.
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January 3rd, 2009, 01:05 AM
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Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm sorry that you find yourself with a reason to join this board, but at the same time, I'm glad you've found us. I'm so sorry for what you've been through - I know how much it takes out of you, emotionally. My advice for coping with your EDD anniversary is just to do what feels right to you. If you want to cry all day - do that... If you want to do something to remember your angel/s - do it... If you want time to yourself - do it... Everyone copes differently, so there isn't really one sure-fire way to cope.

I'm Emma (25), proud Mama of 1 little princess - Gaby (26mo). I have 4 angels watching over me, my losses were at 10w4d, 5w4d, 8w0d & 6w1d - I had 2 losses before & 2 losses after I had my daughter, and while I was pregnant with her, went through my EDD anniversary for my miscarriage at 5w4d.. it was really strange being 28-ish weeks pregnant, yet mourning for a baby who wasn't with me.....

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January 3rd, 2009, 10:17 AM
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Take the day for yourself. I've done this on all of my EDD's and that works wonderful. I spend time for me, time with friends, time remembering. It all works out for me.

Naming my angels, and getting little figures to represent them helps me a lot too. Being able to address them by name when talking about them, and having the glass angels to touch just make my heart feel like it can share the joy it knew while I carried them.

HUGS for your losses!
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January 3rd, 2009, 05:51 PM
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((((hugs)))) I'm so sorry for you losses.

I agree on naming your little ones. I know that it helped with the healing process for me. Please be gentle on yourself and know that it is okay to grieve. Give yourself time and do what you feel comfortable doing on your baby's edd anniversary.
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January 3rd, 2009, 06:47 PM
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I'm sorry I missed this last night.

I agree, for me naming my angels and doing something to honor each of them has helped me tremendously.

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January 3rd, 2009, 07:48 PM
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I know how hard 'would be due dates" are. I always try to plan something fun for the day, like a trip to an amusement park. It doesn't make the hurt go away but it helps keep my mind off it...

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