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January 11th, 2009, 08:11 PM
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How much time do you think it's best before TTC again? I'm going through a natural miscarriage right now. Even though I've been through this before, the first time I had a D&C and the second time was an ectopic..so that was a little different. When I had my D&C, they recommened I wait 3 months. Do you think it's the same this time around? They termed this one a 'chemical pregnancy' simply because I wasn't quite 5 weeks yet. I'm supposed to see my doctor tomorrow, and I'll certainly ask him...but I was just wondering what everyone here thinks....

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January 11th, 2009, 08:26 PM
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I had a chemical in Dec around xmas time, I was 5 weeks. I was told to wait till after the first cycle after the miscarriage, so starting the second cycle. The reason I was told this is because its hard to pintpoint the due date with a miscarriage(at least thats what I was told). There is a 1.25% higher chance of miscarriage from what the normal % is. Dh and I talked over the pros and cons with the RE. Then Dh and I decided to try the next cycle instead of waiting till the second cycle. My bleeding wasnt that heavy at all. It felt like a normal AF. I wasnt worried about the 1.25% increase. My beta's dropped right before the miscarriage to a 4 so I didnt have to worry about my hormones being high. If they would have been higher I would have waited till the second cycle.

I had a D&C twice with the 13 week miscarriage in Sept. I was told by the OB to wait three cycles however the RE said to wait till the second cycle.

I think it depends on the Doctor personally. I have friends who were told the same as me and then I have other friends who were told they didnt have to wait. I think it also depends on whats going on with your body to.
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January 11th, 2009, 09:00 PM
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I really think it depends on many things. It can be situational (depending on your body & your particular healing) or some Dr's tell everyone to wait 3 cycles.... I think if you truly want to try again sooner than the Dr suggests, then ask him why (to make sure there aren't any issues you aren't understanding) and then make your decision on your own. In the end you are the one that deals with whatever the outcome is anyway - so it is your right to choose.

I am so sorry for your losses & sorry you are dealing with a loss right now. I hope you find the love & support you need here in order to feel validated & able to heal on your own terms.
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January 11th, 2009, 11:03 PM
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I don't really remember how long we waited after our losses before trying again. I think that the most important factor in trying again is being emotionally ready. I feel that it is important to deal with any emotions surrounding your loss before TTC agian, so that those emotions don't resurface and cause more pain during a future p/g. Other than that, I agree with Beckie. Find out your doctor's reasoning behind the time frame and then use your judgment from there.

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January 12th, 2009, 04:44 AM
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With my 4 m/c's my dr has told me to wait until I get my first period after the m/c then go ahead and start trying again. I had both natural m/c's and D&C's.

With my 4 m/c's my dr has told me to wait until I get my first period after the m/c then go ahead and start trying again. I had both natural m/c's and D&C's.
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January 12th, 2009, 05:52 AM
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I agree. With chemicals, I wait until after my first af to try.

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