Log In Sign Up

New Here.....

Forum: Recurrent Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss


Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.

We pride ourselves on having the friendliest and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment and register for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers. If you have any problems registering please drop an email to [email protected].

Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!

Reply Post New Topic
  Subscribe To Recurrent Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss LinkBack Topic Tools Search this Topic Display Modes
August 2nd, 2010, 07:24 PM
jeanbean's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 1,061
Hello everyone,
My name is Pam. DH and I have been TTC#1 since March 2003. After suffering infertility for many years we finally got pregnant from clomid. This would be our first loss. About a year later we got pregnant naturally (on an off-cycle from medical assistance due to cysts). This was loss #2. We just loss our 3rd baby almost 2 weeks ago. That cycle we used injectibles and did an IUI.

My RE has perfomed all blood tests, karyotying (spelling) of both myself and my DH. I have had an HSG as well. All tests have come back normal. In fact, after our two losses, the RE said he attributed it to "bad luck". Now I am waiting to see our RE again (in about 2 weeks). What in the world is he going to tell me now? All the research I've read said that only about 1 in 100 couples experience three or more miscarriages in a row. DH and I don't want to lose another baby. I'm 34 and DH is 33. My ob/gyn said that he is not the expert, but believes that when my egg meets DH sperm, the chromosomes just aren't lining up. Then he went on to talk about donor egg/sperm....is this what we are left with? Never to have a biological child of our own....

We are in such a different boat than what we were when we started this journey. At first, we could not get pregnant...now, for some reason, our babies don't develop. We've never heard a heartbeat or anything.

Any personal stories of hope, success, dead ends, anything. Thank you for listening.

Reply With Quote
August 2nd, 2010, 08:36 PM
rebeccabaltimore and more's Avatar (rebeccabaltimore)
Join Date: Feb 2009
Posts: 1,732
I don't know a lot about the biology of recurrent m/c, my losses were of a different sort. I know that blood clotting disorders are a common cause, you may want to ask your doctor if he/she has tested for that. My sister is a genetic counselor and I've talked to her about recurrent m/c, and she said that beyond chromosomal problems and blood clotting disorders, recurrent m/c is sadly random. But that does mean that the next time may be different. My mom had back to back m/c's in her late 30's, but at 40 she welcomed healthy twin boys into the world.

I am sorry for your losses and for the helplessness you must be feeling. I wish you didn't have to be here, but it is a supportive place to be.

Thank you Vicki for my awesome siggy!!

Reply With Quote
August 3rd, 2010, 07:06 AM
esparando para bebé's Avatar Proud Car Seat Technician
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 19,613
Send a message via AIM to esparando para bebé Send a message via Yahoo to esparando para bebé
A sad, but warm welcome to the board. I agree with Rebecca about asking if they'd checked for a clotting factor. The good news is, most women who experience RPL do go on to have a healthy child in the future. There is still hope.

As for my story, well, we're still writing it. I've had four miscarriages and start injectibles in October. I do have a clotting disorder. (I have two different mutations of the MTHFR gene.) Clotting disorders are easily treated too. I take B6, B12, 4mg Folic Acid, and a Prenatal Vitamin daily. Once I get pregnant again, I will use Heparin injections.

I would like to invite you to take a look at the stickied threads on the board. If you are willing, please add your family to our dates thread.

Again, I'd like to welcome you with a big I hope that you find this board as supportive as I have.

Thanks to Jaidynsmum for my siggy!
Proud former foster parent to a teen. Waiting on our next call. Proud Aunt to 22.
Proud mommy to 7 angels. Survivor of 4 failed adoptions (5 kids)
Reply With Quote
August 3rd, 2010, 11:57 AM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Illinois
Posts: 1,568
Warm welcome. I am sorry for your losses. Hope you find this board as supportive as the rest of us and it helps you out on your journey.

Reply With Quote
August 3rd, 2010, 01:48 PM
ambee's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Jan 2006
Posts: 5,740
I am so sorry to have to welcome you to our board, but I hope find some comfort and support now that you're here.

My situation was similar to yours. I had 3 losses, 2 early and one at 16 weeks. I was tested for everything under the sun and was told that nothing was really wrong with me. When I got pregnant for a 4th time my doctor immediately put me on progesterone (even though I didn't have a deficiency) and baby asprin as a last ditch effort. I was able to carry my rainbow baby to 34 weeks.

Also, while pregnant with Grace I was again tested for clotting factors. Apparently there are some that are only "triggered" while pregnant. My results came back kind of wacky. My lupus test had a part that came back abnormal. I don't have lupus but definitely had some weird mutation happening that didn't show any of the other 3 times I'd been tested for clotting disorders. I stayed on baby asprin throughout the duration of my pregnancy with Grace and wholeheartedly believe that is why I have my baby today.

I guess all I can say is that Augie is right, statistically most women with RPL do eventually have a healthy pregnancy, though as every woman on this board can tell you it is never an easy road. Best of luck to you through all of your testing, if you ever have any questions please feel free to ask!

*Thank you so much to Jaidynsmum for my beautiful siggy!*

Sophie Lucille: In my life for a moment, in my heart for a lifetime. May 25th, 2006 at 16 weeks.
Reply With Quote
August 3rd, 2010, 02:35 PM
MommytoaMiracle's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 10,571
Hi Pam!

Welcome to the board, although I'm sorry you have to be here

My name is Amber & I have been TTC#1 for 2 years now & have had 4 losses along the way.

Reading your story gave me such a heavy heart.
I'm so sorry for all of your losses & pain you have had to endure doing this hurtful process.

I hope you find some sort of "belonging" here, knowing we have all gone through similar situations & felt the same things.

I hope you find peace within yourself & your pain lessens with each day.

We are here for you!
Reply With Quote
August 3rd, 2010, 06:44 PM
jeanbean's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 1,061
thank you for the warm words...they truly mean alot. I don't have any friends in real life who can relate to me. It has gotten much more difficult over the past few years as all of our friends have at least one child now. I am continuously asking myself "why us?". Some days I just feel like giving up.

Thanks again for understanding and listening.

Reply With Quote
August 3rd, 2010, 08:00 PM
ambee's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Jan 2006
Posts: 5,740
I think that's why we're all drawn to this board. Unfortunately (well I guess fortunately for everyone else) :/ there just aren't a lot of people out there who have experienced loss the the degree all of us on here have. I really hope it does bring you some comfort.

*Thank you so much to Jaidynsmum for my beautiful siggy!*

Sophie Lucille: In my life for a moment, in my heart for a lifetime. May 25th, 2006 at 16 weeks.
Reply With Quote

Topic Tools Search this Topic
Search this Topic:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 11:38 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.9
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0