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September 6th, 2010, 10:53 AM
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I think it's safe to assume we've all been here. Are you still in this stage? If not, what helped you to move past it?

As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.
You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.

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September 6th, 2010, 12:08 PM
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For sure
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September 6th, 2010, 03:09 PM
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Yeah I'm there. I think I'm going to be raw for a long time.

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September 6th, 2010, 07:12 PM
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It took me a while to work through this stage. It was a long journey and it was like I took a few steps forward and fell back 20 steps. I was miserable. My support system (here on JM and IRL) got me through my grief as well as my faith. It took me around 1.5yrs to process everything and work through the emotions and finally be able to say I've found peace.

Hang in their ladies. Time is a wondeful healer as is a great support system. I found that going through everything alone made the healing process longer.
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September 7th, 2010, 09:48 AM
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Absolutely I went through this stage! For me, this was the longest stage. I felt guilty that my body failed my babies over and over and wasn't a "safe" environment for them. I worried Sophie felt pain before she passed and that it was my body's fault. I felt guilty that I couldn't give DH the baby he so desperately wanted. I felt guilty that my losses were causing my family pain. It was a tough stage, but like Nykoal said, time heals those wounds eventually.

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September 7th, 2010, 12:05 PM
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I went through the guilt and I know it wasn't my fault. It took some time to not blame myself. As for the pain, its still there. Especially when I find reminders. August was rough but we made it through . CJ's loss is not as painful as Rose's loss. But CJ's was over a year ago and Rose was only 6 months. I think that makes a difference.

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