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September 6th, 2010, 03:01 PM
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Have you seen a counselor or a psychologist?
DH and I have an appointment for tomorrow, one hour.

I'm not too sure what to expect.
Was it helpful or not really? Did you need to go more than once? How often?

BTW she is part of the fertility clinic and works mainly with the patients who go see the REs at the clinic. So hopefully she'll be helpful.
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September 6th, 2010, 05:18 PM
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Not for our losses. I went for some other issues when DH and I first got together, but she wasn't really helpful.
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September 6th, 2010, 07:59 PM
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i see a counselor for a variety of things and in some ways it is helpful. It isn't a one appointment wonder though, it is a process but that process has helped me deal with my losses as well as find coping mechanisms for other stressors in life. But for DJ it hasn't helped him at all. He won't talk about anything with anyone...
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September 6th, 2010, 08:26 PM
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I went and still do off and on. I have a fabulous therapist, I tend to go more when I am pregnant, Chris goes also and he found it has helped him. I become paranoid, fear tends to try to rule.

After my first loss I went weekly to a therapist and we went to a support group at a childrens hospital that was specifically for pregnancy and infant loss. A lot of the groups that are out there now are six weeks, and have work books, etc.. The one we attended was great and you could attend on an indefinite basis. It's where I found the first therapist I went to.
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September 7th, 2010, 03:37 AM
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I'll ask if there is a support group today. I don't know if there is. I'll also call the hospital to ask. If there isn't one I'll try to look into starting one that could meet at my church, it would be open but it would be based in my church to start with I guess.

I just really am feeling a much stronger need than ever to lean on people in RL as well as the internet.
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September 7th, 2010, 03:47 AM
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I have never seen a therapist for my losses, though, when I was taking it really hard, I thought seriously about it.
I really hope the appointment goes well & you get everything out of it that you want/need.
I will be thinking happy thoughts for you today!
GL!
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September 7th, 2010, 09:46 AM
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Yes, I started seeing someone a few months after I lost Sophie. Interestedly enough we didn't end up talking about the losses as much as some of my childhood traumas. It did help me a lot, and it helped DH see why I am the way I am.
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September 7th, 2010, 11:33 AM
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Well it was ok - not as helpful as I hoped, but not bad either.
I think I'm pretty introspective and I have a lot of people to talk to, so I may not need it as much as others.
She did have a few helpful insights though and it was nice to feel validated.
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September 7th, 2010, 11:49 AM
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I went to a few sessions after my most recent loss. It bounced between dealing with my losses, and dealing with current events. At the same time as my sessions DH ended up in the hospital and we almost lost him. So its been a rough year. The counselor has helped but it does take time. It was nice to feel validated that its ok to grieve. I have to hide so much it was nice to be open and cry. I hope that it will help you more. Give it time.
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September 7th, 2010, 05:19 PM
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I started seeing one after my first loss and have been ever since. it really helped me get through my second loss better than i did with the first one. overall it was helpful, but i did need to start on some anti depressants to help as well( i was very against going on them while ttc but they have helped a ton). i have had/do have other issues going on so seeing someone plus the medication have helped. I think seeing someone is a good thing and hopefully it helps.
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September 9th, 2010, 03:52 AM
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I've seen a therapist for years, for a multitude of issues surrounding my depression and anxiety.

When I lost my two angels, it was pretty helpful, BUT I already had established a trusting relationship with the therapist.. that can make a difference.

Good luck.
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