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September 10th, 2010, 09:00 AM
ambee's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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How do you work through the hard emotions that accompany RPL?

I write and talk. Both help me work through my feelings. Writing allows me to be a little more dark I guess, because it's hard to trust real people with your darkest thoughts. I also talk about it to anyone I trust enough to share the story with. Talking about Sophie especially makes it feel real, instead of something that I just imagined happening.

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Sophie Lucille: In my life for a moment, in my heart for a lifetime. May 25th, 2006 at 16 weeks.
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September 10th, 2010, 09:17 AM
MommytoaMiracle's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I deal with it by having my time to "feel sorry for myself" & wallow in my self-pity. Listening to sad songs, watching sad movies, talking about my losses.
Then, when I'm done, I deal with it in a positive way. I try to be very optimistic & believe GOD has his reasons that are above my understanding & I try to lean on him.
But, everyone needs time to "wallow".
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September 10th, 2010, 10:43 AM
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I post on JM....and talk about it. I am very open about my losses.

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Proud former foster parent to a teen. Waiting on our next call. Proud Aunt to 22.
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September 10th, 2010, 11:43 AM
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After each loss I tended to eat a lot. I used to joke to DH that I was trying to eat my way to happiness. Also, at that time and now that I am in a good place, I talk about it with everyone. I have a great support system.
Kimberly, wife to Jamie
Miscarriage at 10 weeks - February 14, 2009
Miscarriage of twin boys at 11 weeks - September 21, 2009
Chemical pregnancy - January 9, 2010
Miscarriage at 10 weeks - April 21, 2010
Miscarriage at 7 weeks - October 22, 2010
Miscarriage at 10 weeks - May 14, 2011
Miscarriage at 17 weeks - December 7, 2011 (My sweet little Joshua had Achondrogenesis type 2)
Miscarriage at 5 weeks - June 5, 2013

All test results normal. Reason for RPL unknown.

Annabel born healthy at 35 weeks - May 22, 2014
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September 10th, 2010, 08:23 PM
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I need to talk about what has happened with my friends but first I spend a few days wallowing in self pity. When I can stand seeing people again, I go out and shop for anything -- shopping really works for me. I also take many trips to Starbucks for their hot chocolate because it is my self comfort drink. Then, I would start to think about TTC again. My first two losses, I got pregnant again after the first cycle and then I could concentrate on the new baby. This time I have done all of the above except the TTC. There will not be another baby so I get really down when I think about it. Just sticking to the shopping and Srarbucks. I hope I get some strength soon or we will be broke.
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