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September 16th, 2006, 02:57 PM
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I had a 2nd miscarriage..Actually the baby is still in me...it stopped growing at 6 weeks and 4 days..I should be 9 weeks and 1 day today..

I am waiting for it to pass..I DO NOT want a d&c..so hopefully this will take place soon...Can anyone tell me if they have gone through this waiting until it passes? What should I expect?

Thanks so much..


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September 16th, 2006, 03:25 PM
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First, I am so sorry for your loss. I too had a 'silent' miscarriage. We went for an early u/s to establish dates, and according to my calculations, I would have been 9 w 6 d. My little bean was only measuring at
6 w 3 d. There was no 'fetal pole' and definately no heardbeat.
Shortly after, I started to have brown spotting, and 2 days after discovering that our bean wasn't with us anymore, I started bleeding and cramping.

I wish you strength - and that if at all possible you do everything naturally, and that all of the tissue passes. If you have any retention of tissue, you may very well have to have a D&C.

Please feel free to PM me if you have any other questions.

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Glenn - 44

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September 16th, 2006, 06:01 PM
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Lisa - I am so sorry to see you here & sorry for your loss hun. I waited about 4 weeks for my last mc to occur - and it was hard - but I also don't regret choosing to not have a D&C. I agree that going natural you do run some risk htat you may need a D&C anyway - but I have also seen several women on the boards that have had a 2nd D&C be needed - so there are no guarantees no matter what you choose. I don't know what to tell you as far as what to expect. I am not certain if you had a natural mc last time... For me it started with spotting for about 24 hrs gradually coming into cramping & heavier bleeding & then moving onto to heavier cramps...and it took about 3 days for me to pass the baby. I tried to use the time before the mc happened to try & make peace with everything & to say good-bye to the baby. Take very very good care of yourself - make sure you are eating as well as you can, drinking plenty of fluids, taking vitamins, etc. It is important to keep yourself as healthy as you can right now. I hope it starts soon so that you aren't left in limbo too long. If there is anything I can do - or any othe rquestions you have - feel free to PM me anytime. Sending you love & prayers-
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September 16th, 2006, 06:29 PM
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I am sorry for your loss. Like Beckie, I had to wait 4 weeks after I found out for my last m/c to take place. I had a b/o (where no baby ever developed), though, so I'm not sure how it would have been different if I had actually passed a baby. I know it is hard to wait. One thing that seems to help is if you are active, it seems to help move things along. I realized that both of my m/c's have occurred on Mondays....the only two days I work are Saturdays and Sundays and I am on my feet constantly moving while I am at work. So I think work was a trigger for my m/c's to start.


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September 16th, 2006, 10:20 PM
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I didn't have to wait with either of mine (by the time I found out I was already bleeding), so I don't know how long it might take. It seems like 4wks has been the longest for the ladies here. I just wanted to say again how sorry I am for your losses. This is a great board, but we hate to have to welcome anyone here.
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September 17th, 2006, 01:38 AM
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So sorry to hear about your loss. A big hug for you and I hope you will find the strength you need to cope.

Re the D&C issue, I am totally with you in wanting to have a natural miscarriage. I have tried it and it seems to work OK with early losses, but not so OK when I have been more than 9 weeks. With my 2nd miscarriage in particular, I was determined not to have a D&C but at the end the natural option proved too much. The bleeding went on for way too long so at the end I was actually grateful that I could have a D&C and start getting better. So, it is really hard to predict how it is going to be for you - but D&C or no D&C the main thing is to take care of yourself and do whatever you need to minimise the physical and emotional impact of the miscarriage.

Good luck

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September 17th, 2006, 02:19 PM
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I too wish you strength and peace Lisa...I'm always here for you.
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September 17th, 2006, 03:54 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. With my first misscarraige I started beeding and knew I was losing the baby. With the second I was bleeding off and on for a while then I bleed heavily one night and lost my baby.

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September 17th, 2006, 04:30 PM
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Thanks girls! It feels like I am a bit crampy now..my lower back...I REALLY do not want a D&C!! If I end up having one I guess thats the way it goes...I really just want to find out what is causing these miscarriages...I hope it is something they can fix. (if they can even find a cause) I am feeling kind of numb today...Mostly scared though.

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September 18th, 2006, 09:18 AM
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Lisa, I'm so so sorry you have to join us. I hope things move along quickly for you so you can get past the physical part of the loss without having to wait too long. We're here for you anytime.

Do not sorrow; the joy of the Lord is your strength." Neh. 8:10
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September 19th, 2006, 11:42 AM
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With my second m/c my hcg levels didn't increase, so I know it was coming. It took about a month for the bleeding to start. It was like a really heavy period.

With this m/c I also lost it at 6w4d. I opted for pills misoprostol that you insert vaginally. I started bleeding within 12 hours. It wasn't bad.

The pills are an alternative to the D&C. My doc said she recommends those over the D&C. It's easier on the body.

Have you been back in for another ultrasound to see if the bleeding is going to start?

I'm sorry for your loss.
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September 19th, 2006, 01:10 PM
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I passed everything last night..I am bleeding a little bit now...

Thank you *Kiliki* for my awesome siggy!

~~Lisa~~(40) Mommy to Jenna Justine 20 years old and Peyton Keely Born December 28th,2007
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September 21st, 2006, 07:46 AM
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I'm so sorry hun.

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For the special little one in your life!
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