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October 5th, 2006, 08:44 AM
ambee's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Well ladies, I was doing really well dealing with Sophie's loss, I really was. The past 2 weeks or so have been kind of rough though, and I'm not sure why. I think it's just because it's drawing closer to my duedate.
So I think I've told you about my other friend that's pregnant (she was about 3 weeks ahead of me in my last pregnancy). She's the one who we went out for coffee with after the 3rd loss, and all she did was rant and rave about her pregnancy. Well now she's 16 weeks pregnant, right at the time I lost Sophie, and I'm having a hard enough time dealing with that. I knew I was going to have a hard time when she found out what she was having, but I was thinking a had a few more weeks to prepare myself for that.
Then this morning, I open up Myspace, and she has a bulletin posted "IT's a...." and all of the sudden I couldn't breathe. She had an unexpected u/s and the doctor is pretty sure it's a girl. I found out I was having a girl at 16 weeks, but it was while holding her lifeless little body...not through a happy normal doctor's office.
I'm crying for the first time in months...I feel sick and shaky and on the verge of a panic attack and I don't even really understand why!!! Except that should have been me, and instead I lost her. And this mean, selfish, uncaring girl gets to keep hers. I just don't understand...

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Sophie Lucille: In my life for a moment, in my heart for a lifetime. May 25th, 2006 at 16 weeks.
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October 5th, 2006, 09:16 AM
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Unfortunately grief isn't something that we go through and then it's over. There will always be things that happen in life to bring up feelings we thought we'd "handled". I'm sorry this situation with your friend is so tough for you, but it's OK to feel everything you're feeling right now. Give yourself whatever time you need. And we're always here for you!!
Do not sorrow; the joy of the Lord is your strength." Neh. 8:10
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October 5th, 2006, 12:02 PM
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I wish I had something eloquent to say to take away the pain and anger. Instead here are some

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October 5th, 2006, 01:32 PM
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Oh sweetie I'm so so sorry its jsut so frustrating! I really feel for you
Cause I know my weakness, know my voice,
Now I believe in grace and choice,
And I know perhaps my heart is farce,
But Iíll be born without a mask
~ Babel, Mumford & Sons

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October 5th, 2006, 01:56 PM
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Awe hun...that just plain sucks. I'm sorry your having a horrilbe day. You're right it's not fair and it will never make any sense. It sucks that the bad days sneak up on us and tend to blind-side us.

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October 5th, 2006, 05:59 PM
beck12's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Oh sweetie. I was so sorry to read you are having such a hard time right now. It's totally understandable. I think I would feel exactly the same way. You are right that she doesn't deserve to have this & you didn't deserve to loose your angel. But unfortunately very littel in life seems to be about what anyone deserves really & more about what happens. I hope you find some peace again soon & until then - I would do my best to avoid anything to do with her. She isn't sensitive to your feelings or your pain & you don't need to subject yourself to her silly selfish ways. I wish there was more I could offer.
B - Crazy momma to my two boys
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October 7th, 2006, 07:25 PM
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I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I've found there's no telling when a trigger will just totally floor you. It sucks, but unfortunately I don't think there's any way to get around it. Take care of yourself, and let yourself feel what you're feeling.

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