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October 6th, 2006, 12:01 PM
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I've previously been over at the Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage board but now that I'm seeing an RE this seems like the right board for me. I have one son who is 8 and have had 4 early miscarriages in the last year and a half. Early tests have shown that I have thyroid antibodies and a mild goiter. My RE thinks I've got an autoimmune problem or blood clotting problem causing the thyroid problems and the miscarriages. I had an HSG yesterday and it was really, really unpleasant. I still feel lousy. I was not prepared for it to be this uncomfortable. Usually I have a fairly high pain tolerance.

I really like the doctor. He's got a good bedside manner and a good reputation. But I just found out that he gives fertility drugs to everyone, no matter what. Now, I am definitely ovulating and get pregnant extremely easily. So I really don't feel that I should be using fertility drugs, particularly if there is a clear autoimmune or blood clotting problem that can be treated. Is this a normal approach for an RE? To use fertility drugs for everyone, whatever their diagnosis? It seems too broad to me. Why not try to fix the obvious problem first and then follow up with other treatments if needed? I'd love to hear if this fits with experiences you have had with specialists.

Thanks so much. I'm so glad I found this board, it's great to be able to communicate with people who know what I'm going through.
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October 6th, 2006, 12:22 PM
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I haven't been to an RE myself, but we have several others who have. I'm sure they'll be happy to share their experiences with you.

We also have a subforum for TTC after Recurrent Loss, which might be a more comfortable place for you than the regular ttc after loss board for ttc discussions. You're more than welcome to hang out both places, as several of our ladies do.

I'm really glad you found our board, though sorry your circumstances brought you here. So sorry for your losses.
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October 6th, 2006, 02:17 PM
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to our little corner! I'm sorry it's under these circumstances, but you've found an amazing group of women here who are very warm, caring and full of insight.

I'm in the process of finishing up my tests with my RE. I'm hoping to find out why I've had 3 losses in the past year. I might be px Clomid but I had slightly low estrogen levels. I have a biopsy in another week and I'll be getting the rest of my test results then.

It's true...many doctors like to px meds instead of looking at other root causes. I've been blessed to have an RE that's run a HUGE lot of tests (including 25 different blood tests checking for practically everything under the sun). I have very regular cycles and can predict my exact O day but I might need a little bit of help with the egg quality. I doubt that's the case for everybody else, but in my case we've ruled out all other hormone issues, thyroid, PCOS, blood clotting, etc and we're left with slightly lower estrogen.

Who knows...

Good luck with everything though!
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October 7th, 2006, 12:30 AM
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Welcome to our board! I am so sorry for your losses & hope you find being here to be helpful to you on your journey. I am like you that I ask a lot of questions of my Dr's & expect good answers that make sense. I would talk more to your Dr about this concern & express your doubts about any treatment they plan to offer. It is your body & your pg & it's important that you be comfortable. I have been to an RE & for us - he didn't find anything...it was a blood test my Ob did that gave us our answer (Dh has a chromosomal abnormality) and overall I can't say I think the RE helped us at all...in fact I left on what I consider bad terms & real distrust. To make matters worse - my RE is considered among the top 5% in the nation - so I guess it gave me a bad taste - especially since many RE's (including mine) seem to be soooo geared toward infertility & the ability to get pg that I felt my losses were an unusual thing for him & often felt I was being treated as an infertility patient. Anyway - many women do have good experiences with their RE's & I hope yours turns out to be one of those. I am glad that we have had everything else checked out in the long run anyway - I just wish it left me with a better feeling about the experience. I wish you all the best.
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October 7th, 2006, 12:30 PM
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Thanks to all for the warm welcomes. It's so good to hear other peoples' experiences. I hope the situation with my RE won't end up like yours, Beck12. I'm glad you at least found a doctor that was helpful. We'll see what my doctor has to say once all the results are in. I'll try to convince him to treat me without the fertility drugs (unless there's a clear indication for them or if there isn't any other obvious route to take, as in your case Nykoal). I guess if he insists on fertility drugs I'll have to find some one else. Sigh. I guess no one said this would be easy.
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October 7th, 2006, 07:41 PM
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! I'm so sorry for your losses, but I'm really glad you decided to post here. I've recieved so much good advice and always find kind ears here.
I've always thought it's important to go with your instincts. I know a lot of doctors jump to the fertility med option, but that's something that really makes me uncomfortable. A lot of fertility meds can be pretty rough on your body, and I know medicines like Clomid are to be used for as short of a time as possible. If your doctor wants to put you on meds, I would strongly suggest that you sit down and find out EXACTLY why he thinks you need to be on them. If you're not comfortable, then you're right, you'd need to find a new doctor.

Has he already suggested that you go on them, or is that just his norm? Maybe he'll realize your situation is unique. Though you do have to consider, a good majority of women going to RE's are going for infertility, not recurrent losses. And they are definitely very different things.

I've yet to go to an RE, though my first appointment is scheduled for the 2nd of next month and I'm worried about going for these exact reasons. I will insist that he run all the necessary tests on me though, before we ever get to the med point. Though if you need them, they are certainly beneficial.

Hope this helped a little, good luck on the sometimes long journey.

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October 7th, 2006, 07:43 PM
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I guess no one said this would be easy.[/b]
How true. I've never been to an RE, but I wanted to say welcome to the board! We all wish we weren't here, but this group of ladies is a lifesaver.

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