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August 26th, 2012, 05:05 PM
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What sparked your interest in Natural Childbirth? Was there a moment, person, book, or movie in your life that impacted you to cause you to look into a natural birth for yourself? What or who was it?
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August 26th, 2012, 05:19 PM
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I think for me it was the example of my mom. Although I wasn't a natural birth, that's what she set out to do. Unfortunately, I got stuck (my head was in the wrong position) so they gave her an epidural and pitocin (or whatever it was back then) to keep labor going. It would have ended in a c-section if I hadn't moved myself into the right position. She didn't like the epidural at all, but more importantly, I knew that she was prepared to do it herself and that makes me feel like I want to do it myself as well.

That was the initial spark - now with everything I have learned, it makes me want it that much more.
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August 26th, 2012, 09:59 PM
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I've always thought medicine should be a last resort, in life in general. So it came naturally that it should be so in pregnancy and birth as well. I also find all the interventions to be annoying and uneeded (for the most part).
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August 27th, 2012, 08:45 AM
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The main thing for me is wanting to do everything I can to avoid a c-section. I know in general, the less interventions, the less chance of a section. I have adenomyosis, which is a condition made worse with c-section, so I want to avoid a section at all costs. I will of course not hesitate to have one if it comes down to it, but I want to give myself the best opportunity to deliver vaginally.

Also, and I know this is slightly irrational since it's two separate things, but about 5 years ago I had a spinal tap done, and it did not go well at all. The kept missing and I kept going paralyzed for a second, so I really really really do not want any needles near my back.
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August 27th, 2012, 09:37 AM
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I kind of like to do things as naturally as possible in pretty much all aspects of my life. I also don't like to take medicine unless I absolutely have to. Plus, it just always seemed... I guess, "anti-climactic" having a c-section as opposed to a natural vaginal birth... not quite sure how to explain that. I didn't really want to "mess" with the process.

So I tried to prepare myself for a natural birth with my first. What I *didn't* prepare myself for, however... was dealing with hospital staff... and knowing how much they push the interventions. My first birth was anything *but* natural (even though I had hospital midwives)... pitocin, pain relief medication, then an epidural, then an "emergency" c-section. It wasn't until after his birth that Business of Being Born came out. My husband and I watched that together, and holy cow... that described my first birth almost to a T! It was through watching that documentary that I was all the more determined to have a natural birth with my second. And I felt armed with the new-found ability to stand up to hospital staff.

However, even though I did labor naturally the second time, I ended up with another c-section. *sigh*

Finally, with my third baby... after dealing with hospital births twice and having bad experiences each time... and seeing how the hospitals function and having to deal with "hospital policies"... and being so incredibly frustrated with the after care... we decided to not even go near the hospital and have a home birth. With two c-sections under my belt and the pushing and arguing I had to do with the hospital the second time around just so they'd even "allow" me to ATTEMPT a VBAC, there was no possible way that I would have had my third baby naturally if we had gone to the hospital. There's no doubt in my mind that she would have been another c-section. And I didn't want that.

So my initial interest in NCB came from my innate desire to do most things naturally. I had also seen videos of water births and from the very beginning, having a natural water birth had always been my dream. Then my desire was fueled more by the BoBB documentary. And finally, combining my innate desire, plus my dream of a water birth, plus the BoBB doc, and adding in my bad experiences with two different hospitals and two c-sections... sparked my desire to have a home water birth with the third baby.

Sorry that was so long... but after having three kids, the amount of reasons for wanting a NCB built up and built up over time until it became of mountain of reasons.
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August 27th, 2012, 11:36 AM
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Years and years ago I was online looking up name meanings. I stumbled across a mommies message board and poked around a little while. There were women on there talking about natural childbirth and home birth. I had never ever considered that there were options beyond the typical hospital birth experience. One of my friends had just had her first baby and had about every intervention imaginable and ended up with a section. I thought her birth experience was totally normal so learning about NCB/the midwifery model of care was an eye opening experience. From there I continued to research here and there and realized there were much better and safer ways to do things than what hospitals typically do. By the time DH and I were ready to TTC I felt pretty well educated. When I got pregnant I immediately contacted a home birth midwife and never looked back
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August 27th, 2012, 05:26 PM
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I honestly never thought that what i was looking for was abnormal It wasn't til I was a couple months pregnant that i noticed most people seemed to think not getting an epi was a big deal. I figured birth always started naturally unless there were health concerns. and that pain meds were something you opted in on if it made you more comfortable not something you had to make it clear you were opting out of. and honestly its still pretty much the way im approaching my birth.

for a little bit i learned about all these methods and view points and approaches and stuff and got really overwhelmed and while i have picked up a few techniques im planning on using iv decided the best thing for me is to go back to the basics. haveing a kid was never that scary to me an I only started freaking me out once I started approaching natural birth as something abnormal.

the one thing thats happened recently that really motivates me that I wont be opting in on the pain meds is one of my highschool friends gave natural birth in a hospital to an 11lb girl with a standard OB doc. so I know its possible and im slightly competitive so basically i cant let her beat me lol. plus 11 freaking lb baby mines probably going to be like 6 or 7 so ill look like a total wuss if I cant handle it.
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August 28th, 2012, 08:05 AM
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Wow, I had to really think about this... I think it was a friend of mine that had been researching NCB years before I was even considering TTC and getting married. Then once we started TTC I watched Business of Being Born and that's al she wrote! lol I was hooked and I am actually slightly obsessive about it. I truly don't understand why this isn't the norm, and the interventions are abnormal. The more I read about NCB, the more I am beyond convinced that the labor model in America is broke.

I was talking to my sister-in-law this weekend, she is a new L&R nurse, and I asked from the nurses' perspective, what do they prefer.. her very quick response was: the moms that do it naturally... they are the easiest moms to work with.
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August 28th, 2012, 12:52 PM
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Mine started after my first was born. I had an atypical labor (for a first child) and ended up naturally birthing (completely without interventions, at a hospital!) When I would tell people how he was born...it seemed folks were most shocked about me not getting an epi, versus the fact that I didn't know i was in labor (which I thought would be the more shocking part). And the part that REALLY got me was that people were negative about me not getting an epi, even though I didn't need it. And pair that with how amazing I felt after I gave birth to him (versus what I had heard about being exhausted and sore and feeling like crap), I wanted to know more about the NCB experience. And what I could try to repeat for a second child! Lol.

It was then I started finding reasons for wanting another NCB. And I am 100% positive that my second child would have been a c-section birth had I not delved into the NCB world. As it stood, he was a pitocin and Nubain baby. But without the background studying of NCB that I did, his birth would have certainly contained more interventions...or more likely, would not have been allowed to happen naturally at all.
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August 28th, 2012, 01:46 PM
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My aunt had an unplanned natural child birth with her 3rd. This was unheard of to me at the time. I was a teenager and I feared labor extremely. Even with epidurals, my family told me how extremely painful it was and how I'll wish I were dead. This made me NEVER want kids lol. So when my aunt had one naturally and said it wasn't that bad at all, I was shocked. How did she live was all I was thinking? But this event planted the seed into my head that it can be done and from then on I always leaned towards a natural child birth.
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September 5th, 2012, 10:25 AM
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My cousin had a horrible experience with an epidural and I thought, "why would someone put themselves through that if you don't have to?". I started researching NCB and found it just made sense.
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September 5th, 2012, 01:31 PM
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I always just assumed I'd have an Epi and go on with life. Then when I got pregnant, I started researching it and decided that I definitely did NOT want an Epi.
Everyone I told said I was crazy, and how could I even try that. Even last night at dinner, my ILs told me they fully expect me to get an Epi at the first hint of pain.
I don't handle pain well, but I've made up my mind that this isn't going to pain, it's going to be slight pressure, and once the pressure is done, I'll have a sweet little baby.

Also, Lucy's reasons of not wanting a needle near my spine is a major factor. It just sounds awful.
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September 6th, 2012, 06:29 PM
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For me it was something I started thinking about a long time ago. I have a huge family and I've been close to lots of cousins that have given birth. Occasionally one would have an "accidental" NCB and without fail that person would talk about how much easier the recovery was, how much easier breastfeeding was, just how much better they felt. So I had that in my mind.

And there were things that just never made sense to me - lets let someone be in something called "labor" for a long time, but not give them any food or water, and just see how they do with that.

So when I got hit with the reality of having babies, I started to really research. I read Ina May's books and other NCB resources and compared them with what I heard and read about typical hospital experiences. And the more I learned the more I realized that all of this business is supposed to happen and that mostly when we try to control or manage it, we're hurting rather than helping.
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September 7th, 2012, 02:15 PM
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For me is was a combination of my SIL and Ina May's Guide to Childbirth. The stories in that book were SO empowering and made me feel like superwoman, and I wasn't even pregnant yet! Then my SIL, she is just amazing! Her story and the delivery of her DD was just so inspiring.

A few weeks ago, her and I sat and watched Business of Being Born and that totally sealed the deal for me. I mean birth is just a natural beautiful thing, I would hate to dull any of the experience of it.
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September 26th, 2012, 05:31 PM
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I don't remember ever NOT wanting a natural childbirth. There has never been a question in my mind about it. I am 21 years old and 16 weeks pregnant now, and as far back as I can remember I had always planned on having a midwife and doing everything naturally. I have no idea where I first heard about midwives, now that I think about it. Unfortunately, having a midwife for a home birth is not possible for me because Alabama sucks. The government should not have any say in how I give birth to my child.... keep the U.S. out of my uterus! Anyway, if you are going to abstain from drugs and alcohol during pregnancy, it makes no sense to me that you would allow yourself to be pumped full of drugs during labor, to the point where you can't even feel contractions. This is just downright scary to me. I guess for me it all stems from an ability to think about things logically, believing in natural living and self-sufficiency, and an innate need to QUESTION EVERYTHING! lol. Now that I am pregnant, I am reading and learning as much as I can. I want to prepare myself and my partner as much as possible for a home birth, but also be prepared for a hospital birth. I need to have choices and I want to be prepared for everything when the time comes. Being thrown into the unknown and not having my voice heard are the scariest things to me right now. Namely, being in a hospital where they will be doing everything they can to herd me through the process and force interventions on me. When I think about birthing in a hospital, I just picture all these people around me, poking me with needles and pushing me down onto a bed, and me finally jumping up yelling "EVERYONE GET THE F- OUT!!" and locking the door!
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September 26th, 2012, 06:51 PM
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I had a really awful birth experience with my first child. It was full of interventions that were unnecessary and only led me to complications and a cesarian section which led me to an extremely painful and difficult recovery. I had zero control in the process and felt disappointed and defeated. I was drawn to natural childbirth when I started doing research and educating myself about my next birth. I want to go as natural as possible to avoid going through a similar experience again and hopefully have a successful VBAC.

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September 26th, 2012, 09:15 PM
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I always wanted to have kids and would watch the shows on TLC about having babies. While watching one of these shows the thought came to me one day that women have been having children for thousands of years. WITHOUT DRUGS! If they can do it so can I. I also have two philosophies: "No matter how bad things are, they can always be worse." and following that "I shouldn't complain. Someone else is in worse shape than I am. How selfish of me to complain." On top of that I have a fabulous friend who has had 4 beautiful children and even though she had pit with her first she never had or considered an epi. More than that she shared her experience with me. That sealed the deal for me. I did do some research on my own, mainly to present my husband with factual information. Turns out he was not nearly so comfortable with "I can do this because I say I can" as I was. This also lead to my creating a birth plan. When we got to the hospital without a birth plan with my first son I had already been in labor for a while and was tired. Without my handy dandy paper to hand to the nurses they didn't know I didn't want drugs. When they asked my hubby practically yelled yes and with that I was drugged without actually personally consenting to it.
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September 27th, 2012, 11:14 AM
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I love hearing everyone's stories. Those who feel wronged or hurt by your previous experiences, I'm so sorry and I'm mad and sad with you. Those who were inspired by others in your life, that's so awesome to have that influence in your life! Those afraid of the needle- I totally get that: it's freaky. And to the ladies who just "knew" you were always interested in NCB, you are inspirational- I was not like that at all with my first. I used to preach epidurals from the moutain-top. Oh how things have changed!
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September 28th, 2012, 08:32 AM
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A lot of it came from being inspired by the birth experiences of family members. I watched my mother have terrible experiences with an intervention-happy OB, then wonderful experiences with midwives who were more comfortable letting her control the birth more. I saw the huge differences in recovery and feeling at peace with their childbirth experiences from my sisters who went through OBs or midwives, who had vaginal deliveries or c-sections, etc. Even when C-section was absolutely the best choice for the mother and child, the recovery from it seemed brutal. I'll never understand why anyone would think a section was an 'easy way out' for a woman.

Well before I was hoping to get pregnant, I knew I wanted to use MWs and to avoid an epi, mostly from watching what other women dealt with. I am also ridiculously sensitive to any sort of anesthesia. An epi would be an almost certain ticket to stalled labor and then a c-section for me.

I did a lot of research about things I was hoping for for my infant. Immediate bonding time after delivery, breastfeeding, being able to stay in the room and not taken to the nursery for observation, leaving the hospital and going home as soon as possible, etc. It seemed like just about every hope I had for the birth experience and immediate recovery pointed directly towards natural birth.

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September 28th, 2012, 09:44 AM
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I grew up in a house where my mom had 2 natural child births and hated them, she told me many times how she thought it should be mandatory for woman to have an epidural, or even a c-section.

I never really thought much about it until I saw how an epidural was administered and that gave me the heebeejeebees. But when I was pregnant with my first, I was niave and due to a lot of stress surrounding our new living situation stayed with a doctor I didn't like.

she got induction pushy when I was 38 weeks, but held my ground at least at first, and when I was 40w agreed to an induction at 40W2D.

even though I was favorable and dilated to 4-5 cm before the induction, they pushed the pit on me too fast and after only an hour of induction I was carted off for a c-section with general anesthesia.

I decided I would never let myself be so uneducated again and went on to have a completely natural VBAC with my second, and had hopes to repeat that with my third, however my BP was going up and up, and the best course of action was to deliver. and I was induced again.

I fought hard to avoid that induction, but sometimes it is better to be safe than sorry.

The doctor that over sees the midwives wanted me to have a precautionary epidural, and there was no in the world I was going to let that happen.

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