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September 9th, 2012, 06:15 PM
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None of these are going to sway me from giving birth naturally, but these are things that scare me about giving birth in 7 weeks!

Pooping the birth tub
Puking during labor
The pain of the baby crowning
having an itchy, painful, fiery crotch for a month and a half after....I SO hate hard to reach pain/itching!

Any comforting thoughts for this first time momma?
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September 9th, 2012, 10:20 PM
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Pooping the birth tub
At the time you totally won't care or notice! Plus your midwives will just fish it out and you won't even know it happened.

Puking during labor
I actually puked a lot during labor. I HATE throwing up. I will do anything to avoid it but puking in labor felt so good for some reason and it didn't bother me one bit.

The pain of the baby crowning
I did not feel any pain once I started pushing. I was hesitant to push her head out because I was afraid of the "ring of fire" but I never felt it. Transition was the only part of my labor that I would classify as actually painful and it was definitely a manageable pain.

having an itchy, painful, fiery crotch for a month and a half after....I SO hate hard to reach pain/itching!
My lady parts were swollen up for a few days after birth and a little tender but the situation down there was so much better than what I had expected. I was lucky and didn't tear besides a little skid mark tear. It was a little stingy to pee but I had some great sitz bath stuff that I would squirt on afterward and it was no big deal.

You are going to do fine and you have nothing to worry about!
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September 10th, 2012, 07:49 AM
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Pooping the birth tub--You will not care if/when you poop. This was a huge fear of mine, but when the time came, it was no big deal. My midwife said when I started pushing--"if you poop, we'll just change the pad sweetie, it happens all the time and no one cares. You are having a baby, your bowels will do what they want to."

Puking during labor--I almost puked, mainly becuase I was hungry and hadn't eaten, but I didn't. I was ready to though and honestly I didn't care either.

The pain of the baby crowning--This is painful, BUT, whoever is with you should remind you that you are almost there!! I got to a point when my baby was crowning and thought I couldn't continue, my midwife had me reach down and touch my baby's head. AMAZING!! It gave me the strength to keep going. Knowing that it was so close to be over actually made the pain go away.

having an itchy, painful, fiery crotch for a month and a half after....I SO hate hard to reach pain/itching! I didn't have any itching at all. All in all I think it's something your body is prepared for and you really do heal quickly. You will be tired and probably not thinking about your crotch much, honestly, lol.

Good luck mama!! You will be just fine!!
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September 10th, 2012, 10:25 AM
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I have the same exact fears! I'm so glad you made this post. The responses have been very comforting <3
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I can attest to the parts that I dealt with (I opted for the epi last time ..will not be going that route again).

I actually had tears on the inside as well as a perineum tear. The first couple of days were tender, not terrible by any means. It did burn a little when I peed, but it was totally easy to manage. I just was gentle where and how I sat. I had no itching at all. Honestly, that was easy....

What I can attest to ... when you are in the midst of it, I doubt you will care about some of those things. You are going to be birthing a baby!!!! I mean, how ladylike do you think anyone could be pushing a 5+ lb child out of thier whooha. lol
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September 11th, 2012, 03:02 PM
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Pooping in the birth tub- I wasn't in the tub, but I did poo a little. I would not have even known if someone hadn't commented. I just rolled my eyes. Could not have cared less in the moment. I was so in the zone, and so so close to seeing my daughter's face that it didn't even matter if I was the thousandth person the MW and nurses had seen poo a little.

Puking during labor- This sucked. Not everybody does it. My pukey phased passed after the first few hours, thank goodness.

Pain of the baby crowning- For me, the 'ring of fire' wasn't much. It helped that I'd had horrid back labor and as I started to push she finally turned around. The easing of the back spasms made the rest seem like nothing. Plus, the pressure of the baby's head advancing meant I'd feel a brief burn, then go totally numb. That part was surprisingly easy to handle. I probably had so many endorphins from hours of back labor it was as good as a partial epi, though, lol.

As far as the ravaged vagina, I did tear some and had to get some stitches, and I did have some itching with the stitches. The MWs sent me home with a stack of 'cooling pads' I could put in my underwear when the itching got too bad, and it really helped soothe it for a bit. I'll try to remember what they were. I used the stash in the first week or so, but after that I just needed to clean with warm water after peeing and I didn't have a lot of vaginal discomfort.

ETA: I do remember the pads had witch hazel, which helped with the swelling. They also put ice packs on my crotch after birth for a while and that helped with swelling, too.
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September 12th, 2012, 06:10 AM
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Now that I am a mother of 4, I have realized that birth is not the only time I have to set my dignity aside for the sake of my children, lol. That being said, I only pooped one out of four times in labor. I felt like I was pooping every time though. Since I see birth often, it made me happy to know that I just poo'd bc I knew the baby would come right after.

I have never dealt with tearing. I was given and episiotomy with my first (ugh). That was the only time I had itching. With my others, I only had mild swelling for a day or two. Arnica helps lots with this.

I've also never puked in labor. I've puked lots in pregnancy though!

The pain of crowning was never an issue for me. It lasted for a second and wasn't as near intense of the feeling of me fighting those pushing contractions. Crowning is simple compared to that.
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September 14th, 2012, 09:23 AM
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Pooping the birth tub - I did this during transition, not when pushing. My midwife or DF just fished it out with this net lol. I was mortified of this before labor but now I could care less. I remember saying "I'm so sorry for pooping" and they just laughed at me and assured me it was fine.

Puking during labor - I was very nauseated during labor and I hate that. My first few hours were worse due to the nausea and had I not had that it would have been better. But I never puked.

The pain of the baby crowning - Didn't have this. I was in MEGA pushing mode and just wanted him out. I didn't stop to notice and I only pushed 5 times.

Having an itchy, painful, fiery crotch for a month and a half after - This did suck. Mason came down and stayed for awhile so I sat at 8-9 cm for about 45 min and he bruised the crap out of my bladder. Going to pee was very painful for two weeks. Lots of pressure and burning sensation when I peed, ahh. But it's unavoidable if it's going to happen to you.
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thanks for the reassurance i feel a lot better
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September 22nd, 2012, 03:02 PM
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As far as pooping in the birth tub..no big deal..they see it all the time..puking..I can't say Ive ever done that..and the ring of fire ordeal..it not as bad as I imagined it would be..Ive done it 4 times now and honestly..it's "good" pain..and you know when you start feeling that youre very close to holding your baby!

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September 24th, 2012, 11:46 AM
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Pooping the birth tub
I have no idea if this happened. My MW must have been pretty fast at this.

Puking during labor
I never puked with either births, but puking is a good thing. It's a sign of transition and opening up the throat releases the muscles in the vaginal region so it's easier to dilate.

The pain of the baby crowning
I remember pain with Nola... I can't remember if it was b/c of her head, or pushing in general or if it was something specific... I really don't remember.

having an itchy, painful, fiery crotch for a month and a half after....I SO hate hard to reach pain/itching!
With Kailey I had BAD hemmhroids (sp spell checker isn't working), and it was so annoying for a LONG time, but that was the typical "on your back" position. With Nola, I moved around a lot, had massages down there, sat on birth ball a lot and birthed in a favorable position (on one of those birthing toilet thingys) and received no discomfort after her birth aside from the usual soreness for a few days.

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September 24th, 2012, 06:49 PM
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Do not worry about pooping during labor!! You won't even notice and your midwives or nurses will just take care of it... they are used to it and don't care. Plus your body does a pretty good job of "clearing out" before labor, usually - it can be a sign that you're going into labor. So there's not really much in there.

Throwing up doesn't always happen. I've had it happen during one of my five labors and tbh it was a relief. I felt tons better after, my midwives had a basin for me and they took care of it. They helped me get my mouth rinsed and I went on feeling much better and had my little one!

Ring of Fire - I have had this with some of my babies and not with others. It hurts, but it's the last big thing before you have your baby in your arms. You will want to push through any pain when you are there. You might even be able to see baby's head (with a mirror) or feel his/her head crowning and that's pretty cool and helps you move through the pain.

After birth I have been a little tender for a couple of days, but no persistent pain. I think a gentle, natural birth really helps with that.
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September 25th, 2012, 10:28 PM
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My body did a really good job of clearing itself out during labor so it wasn't an issue but I was freaked out that I would poo. It was something I never even realized could happen until someone else mentioned it to me one time. Talk about a thanks but no thanks.

I had epidural with my first son and was not allowed to eat or drink anything through labor. I labored in the hospital for over 12hrs. I was starving and thirsty when he arrived. I chugged water as soon as he was out and proceeded to puke it all into the floor. I don't know if that is similar to what the other ladies were talking about but I felt much better after. I also learned to sip my water.
With my second son I went all natural and talked to my OB about eating/drinking during labor. I made it very clear this was something I felt strongly about especially since my previous labor lasted a total of 36hrs. My dr. was wonderful in letting me have a lollipop and all the ice chips I could handle throughout the entire labor (which thankfully only last 12 hrs). But, without the epidural and with having access to stuffs through labor I was able to take it easy after delivery and not reach for the nearest cup and make myself sick.

I stressed with my dr. I absolutely under any circumstances would not be having an episiotomy. No matter what. She massaged (rubbed stretched with her fingers) me that way I was naturally more flexible for the baby to come out. I only had one stitch with my first son and even that was a just in case one and absolutely no tearing at all with my second.

Go to the store and buy undies that are a full size up from what you currently wear. While there buy the most absorbent pads you can find. If you deliver in a hospital ask for the which hazel pads and can of Dermoplast. Layer it. Huge undies with pad stuck in followed by ice pack wrapped in paper towel, followed by witch hazel pad, final spray your crotch with Dermoplast. The undies are so everything fits. The ice and witch hazel pads are for swelling, and the dermoplast is a spray that relieves pain and itching.
No one told me and I didn't know to ask with my first one what my girl parts would be like after I delivered my son. Needless to say I was shocked. Anyways, you may not need half of that stuff but if you are swollen and itchy afterward that is what helped me. Then again with my second I had no tearing no itching and no swelling or pain in any form of fashion. Short of ripping of my blanket and once again revealing myself no one would believe me because the nurses and dr. kept asking every time they walked through my door how my swelling was.

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October 1st, 2012, 11:52 AM
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All the stuff is normal, but i have never hear of the having an itchy, painful, fiery crotch, never had that with any of my kids after birth.

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