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May 16th, 2007, 07:43 AM
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How involved in pregnancy and birth is your DH? How supportive is he? Does he understand why you want a natural birth?
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May 16th, 2007, 09:48 AM
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I've told DH that I'm not going to have drugs when/if I give birth... he always agrees, and although I know he thinks that drug-free is the best option, I'm not sure whether he truly believes I won't change my mind when the pain hits!
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May 16th, 2007, 11:18 AM
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DH was the one to come up with the idea of a Natural Birth, I was scared in the beginning. Now the Unassisted Home Lotus Water Birth......that is all my idea, lol. He is nervous about that, but would have no problem if it was assisted. While I love my midwife and most of the nurses at the hospital, I am TERRIFIED of that one nurse that tried to force me into having Morphine and Stadol when I was in PTL about a months ago. And that one nurse is what made me finnally say, "I refuse to deal with that" even if she is not on when I go into labor, who is to say there won't be another one like her? I want NO DRUGS, expecially MORPHINE!!!! *** was she thinking!!???? So, anyway, to answer the question, my DH is supportive, but just would rather have someone here other than him and the kids, he is coming around to the idea more and more each day though, and I still have 49 days to get him 100% on my side, lol (well, that is until my due date anyway )
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May 16th, 2007, 12:54 PM
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How involved in pregnancy and birth is your DH? How supportive is he? Does he understand why you want a natural birth?[/b]
DH is very involved. I feel it's key to a stressfree birth for her... I've talked to him about the effects of drugs, but even more importantly, we both understand the fight/flight response issues associated with childbirth. I feel he will be a great support person in the room when the time comes. If I start to tense up, or get stressed, I think he will be best suited to get me back on track. We've gone over tons of what if senerios about it so I hope we are ready for Samantha's big day. We both want this to be a wonderful entrance into the world for her.
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May 16th, 2007, 05:55 PM
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Dh wasn't very involved. He went more with the thinking "It's your body, do what you want and I'll support you". I explained to him everything I was doing and why. I made a cheat sheet for him of things to do/say/not do/not say for when I was in labor. He was excellent! As soon as we thought we were in labor (2 am) he pulled out a stopwatch and started timing contractions and we went for a walk. LOL! After my MW showed up at home, dh went to the store and bought me drinks and food for labor. He was wonderful. He was there for every contraction, was very helpful. He forgot to do a few things on the list, but nothing that was too detrimenal to my birth plan.

He keeps telling everyone "Jackie knows so much she could probably deliver her own baby without a MW" LOL! I don't really know THAT much, but it seems like it to him since he knows nothing. I was unemployed while I was pregnant so I sat on the computer all day researching everything.
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May 16th, 2007, 05:58 PM
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My husband is super supportive of natural childbirth. He knew that I wanted it but when we started going to class he got really in to it. One night we came out of class and he looks at me and says, "We're gonna do this babe. I know you really want to go natural and you are really passionate about it. I am going to do everything I can to get you through it."


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May 16th, 2007, 07:13 PM
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My Dh was supportive and listened to me, but wasn't super involved. He turned out to be the best coach I could have asked for. He was wonderful when I was IN labor, but he even told me later that the moment I told him my water broke he was kind of worried realizing that he really didn't know what to do. lol
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May 17th, 2007, 01:02 AM
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my dh was great about it all

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May 17th, 2007, 11:05 AM
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DH has been incredible through this pregnancy, he has been to almost all of my appointments and done what he could to help me out with the bedrest, etc. He is supportive of me going natural, but we'll see how he really does when I'm in labor
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May 17th, 2007, 05:41 PM
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Hubby has always been very supportive of how I choose to birth. I don't think that he's ever questioned anything, oh apart from me not wanting my waters broken once
But all in all he is an awesome support during pregnancy, birth & beyond

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May 17th, 2007, 06:14 PM
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Here is my dh being mr. helpful My MW is in the background. The ONLY thing that REALLY took the pain away, was to have my tailbone and hips pressed on in a certain way. It was a godsend!!
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May 18th, 2007, 03:51 PM
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I truly believe having the right support is all the difference between being able to go natural or not.
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May 18th, 2007, 08:30 PM
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MY dh was the one that talked me into natural childbirth and suggested bradley classes. he wanted me to homebirth my first but I was too scared. So he is right behind me, he's a great birth partner, and he caught our last baby when the midwife didnt make it.

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May 18th, 2007, 08:59 PM
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my husband was pretty much my doula, and he did just fine
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May 19th, 2007, 07:13 PM
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He is very supportive! He loves to read about the various stages of pregnancy and is a tremendous support during labor. It was actually DH that suggested we do a home birth rather than go to a birth center so I know he's right there with me in this
Alison - Mom to: Emmeline (7/14), Augustus (2) Maximus (4) Eleanor (5) Reid (6) Evelyn (8) Lucas (13) Christopher (14)

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