[AM08]

Hi,

I'm new to this board (and website). I am 37 years old (will be 38 in a few months). I've never had a child and we've been trying for 15 months or so.


In 2016, my AMH was 1.1. No idea why my OBGYN didn't send me to a fertility specialist right then. Instead, he convinced me to get laparoscopic surgery for endometriosis (which I've never had any symptoms of) and put me on anywhere from 25mg to 200mg of Clomid off an on for a year. As of January 2018, my AMH is now 0.09. Worth noting, he didn't test anything but my progesterone between August 2016 and January 2018. My husband's sperm is apparently fine.


My husband and I went to a fertility specialist and although I appreciate his honesty, I left the clinic devastated. This AMH level is very low even for someone my age and he didn't even push me to do IVF because he thought the number and quality of eggs would be low ---that it is a last chance/hail mary type of play. He suggested fertility drugs and 2 rounds of IUI, but he didn't seem too convinced that I'd be successful. We will get a second opinion next week, but I can't be delusional about this.


I've been looking into overseas clinics for IVF because the cost is so much lower (no idea about the quality), but the thing is if I don't have many eggs and a small percentage of them are even viable, should I give up on the idea of IVF entirely? I don't think I've ever been this heartbroken in my life and I guess I just need someone to tell me whether or not to keep hoping or to put all of my effort into convincing myself to stop hoping.


Yes, I know I could consider donor eggs and adoption, but the expense, waiting time and heartbreak of that is a whole other issue.

[Eholland]

Hi, I’m new here too. I don’t know what amh is (assuming it’s a hormone?), but I’m so sorry the doctor was so discouraging. You shouldn’t give up based on one doctor. Maybe you can get a second opinion? I’m not sure how important genetic relationship is but there are the snowflake babies available for adoption too. Not sure what the cost is for that but i wouldn’t think it wouldn’t be much more than I felt.Again I’m so sorry for the letdown. 😢


Erin