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May 4th, 2008, 10:25 PM
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I wrote this for my blog and I thought I'd post it here too. Warning! It's emotional.

Dear Future Me,

I hope you donít forget me. I hope that if you stop and think about it, you remember the pain and sorrow.

When you havenít gotten any sleep to speak of for days because the baby needs you. When youíre crying because itís all too much. Remember me. Remember how I would do anything for those sleepless nights. Remember all the tears I cried because my heart ached for a child.

When your baby is whiny or teething or crying for no reason. When your child is throwing a screaming fit in the grocery store and youíre exasperated beyond belief. Remember me. Remember all those months I hoped and prayed for my dream to come true. Will you please give my dream come true an extra hug and kiss from me?

When there are fights between siblings and unidentified sticky spots on the carpet. When your child yells ďYou donít love me!Ē out of anger. Remember me. Remember and you can tell your child that you loved them long before they were ever born.

When times are tough and your days feel harder than you think you can handle, I want you to stop and realize how lucky you are. I hope you never forget this time and never forget what a blessing your child is.

I hope that you remember me. And I hope that you are a better mother for it.

Present Me


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May 5th, 2008, 09:36 AM
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That's beautiful, Shannon!
Do not sorrow; the joy of the Lord is your strength." Neh. 8:10
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May 12th, 2008, 08:31 PM
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It is beautiful. And trust me, you will remember. I remember that every day.

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May 12th, 2008, 08:52 PM
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I have to ditto Sara. You WILL remember. I NEVER forget - LITERALLY. I am no superwoman...not by any stretch & I can still completely honestly tell you there has never been a single moment that I didn't feel incredibly lucky. I have had a few moments of exhaustion where I may have been frustrated with my Dh that he wasn't giving me the support I needed to squeeze in a nap, but I honestly have NEVER been frustrated by Jonah. If I ever feel like it gets overwhelming all I literally have to do is take a moment to look at him and I am centered again & feeling so lucky to be dealing with a crabby kid at 3am. I hope that you realize what a loving giving momma you will be to any baby blessed to be cradled in your arms. Never worry that you will forget - it isn't in you to even do that.

I also still remember that ache...... I try to never forget it - because it hopefully allows me the capacity to remain compassionate to those that are there right now. I still miss my babies - but it is a bit different to miss them while getting to cuddle DS. At first I felt guilty for that - now I realize that is how it is supposed to be. DS deserves a happy momma that lives in TODAY. It doesn't mean I forgot about yesterday though - it's all in balance. I hope you too will someday soon be at that balance.
B - Crazy momma to my two boys
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May 13th, 2008, 05:35 PM
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Thanks ladies, I knew you would understand.


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