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July 31st, 2006, 07:36 PM
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Okay, so first for my history with dreams. With my first p/g (H&H 9 months, the easiest p/g ever) I had no dreams. Well, I had dreams (I normally don't remember my dreams at all), but nothing that I remember now. With my second p/g, I started having dreams at first that I had the baby and the baby died right after birth. Then I started having dreams about having major complications during labor. These were very were very vivid dreams and I would wake up almost in tears. I was so scared because of these dreams that I was almost relieved when I m/c because I was so worried that something bad would happen in the end and having the m/c seemed easy compared to what I had begun to think I would have to go through in the end. With my third p/g (second m/c), I had dreams that I was going to m/c. I don't remember these to be so vivid, but I wasn't surprised when I found out that I was going to m/c.

Now to the present. Last night, I had a dream that I was going to m/c again. The part about this that is confusing to me is that I am not currently p/g, I am only on CD 6, so I haven't even O'd yet this cycle. Part of this dream included me being yelled at by my doctor because I didn't go in and have any testing done.
Now I am wondering if I had this dream because I visit JM too much or if it is a sign that I need to have some sort of testing done before I TTC again. I am SO ready to be p/g again, but now I have this to worry about (in addition to all of the other fears that I already have about getting p/g again).

I had thought that I already had my mind made up that I didn't yet want to go for testing. My 2 m/c's have both been b/o's so I think that the chances of having another one would be pretty much next to 0, although we all know that anything is possible. However, I think that I would die if I actually saw a baby on the u/s and then it died and I went on to find out that there was something that I could have done to prevent it if I had had the testing done.

So, any ideas?? I have been thinking this over all day and I still don't know what to make of my dream.

10/31/05 (EDD 5/15/06), 4/17/06 (EDD 11/13/06)
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July 31st, 2006, 08:30 PM
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I don't know what to think either hun. It sounds to me like perhaps you are only playing out your worst fears in dream format more than anything. If you want to get pg again, then do so - if you want testing - do that. It is your path & no matter what - even if you were to mc again without getting testing - it doesn't mean you "did" something to cause it. It is okay to not want a million tests & poking & proding. It does kind of take any fantasty, romance, fun out of it completely.

I don't know what the dreams mean. I have had dreams that have then come close to reality & then dreams that have totally been off hte mark. I am sure you have as well (perhaps you just don't remember them...these wouldn't be hte kind of dreams you forget - so perhaps they stand out more.)

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July 31st, 2006, 09:44 PM
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It's really up to you to decide how badly you do or do not want the testing. Personally, I got it because I had the same fears, and in my case they most likely have found a clotting problem, although I have to go back this week to get it confirmed. However, your history is very different than mine, and like you said there's nothing to indicate a problem or a likely recurrence.
That said, go with your gut, and I think dreams count as part of your gut. Truly, do what will make you happiest, and put your mind at ease, whether it is testing or not. I have found that I am much more open to acting on instinct now that I was before my mcs, and it's worked out fine so far.

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