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August 20th, 2006, 06:45 PM
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Just out of curiosity, how long did you ladies wait after your loss, or losses, before deciding to be TTC again? After my 16 week m/c DH and I waited for the two months recommended by our midwife. I m/c May 25th and found out I was preggo again Aug. 4th on my first cycle of TTC. I ended up losing that baby too, and I'm just not sure how long we should wait. I know we need to wait a while because we have to start going to a RE next month...but I feel emotionally ready now. So what was it for you?

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August 20th, 2006, 06:48 PM
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A month then i lost it and the same happened a mth later so my dr advised me to wait 3mths for my hormones to go back to normal before trying again.

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August 20th, 2006, 08:09 PM
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After my first loss (natural at 4w), doc suggested we wait for one cycle to make it easier for him to date the next pg, but we didn't want to wait just for his convenience and were pg within 1 week after the end of the loss. We lost that one due to chromosomal issues, not because we conceived so quickly.

After my second loss (by d&c at 6w6d), doc told us to wait at least one cycle. So we were good and waited and conceived the next cycle. As of last Monday (5w4d) this one is working. We go in tomorrow (6w4d) for a h/b check.

Keep in mind that doc's recommendation was to give me enough time to heal physically. Emotionally, healing time will vary greatly woman to woman and even loss to loss for the same woman. You need to make sure you're emotionally ready to be pg again and to potentially face another loss.
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August 20th, 2006, 09:09 PM
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After the first loss, the doctor told us to wait two months, and we waited almost that long, until I felt like waiting was holding me back from healing emotionally. We lost that one in June, and after that I decided I was going to do whatever felt right, since we basically followed the doctor's instructions and it didn't work anyway. So this time we waited until I got my first af, and then just stopped preventing (we weren't really ttc - that made me too sad). I got pg that cycle, and am now at 5w4d, and still hanging in there.

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August 21st, 2006, 07:29 PM
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It is different for everyone I suppose. I personally (note personally) think it is a VERY good idea to wait at least one cycle. I know each person heals differently - but it is impossible for anyone to predict how they will feel in a few days, a week, etc....so I think it is safer to allow yourself some time to process & grieve before trying again. If you try again right away - you aren't necessrily processing everything with the loss first & I think it does come back later. We have had a number of ladies pop in that got pg right after mc, went on to have a healthy pg & baby & then started to gireve...you can't keep it away forever, so I would rather deal with it in hte here & now then potentially move on too quickly & not have processed it all. Once again - I will reiterate - that is my personal opinion. Each person obviously chooses their own path. I wish you well on healing & hope you find what is right for you & Dh.
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August 21st, 2006, 08:34 PM
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This last time I wanted to get started right away but I had test to run to see what was going on with me, so I had to wait about 4 months to get my cycles on track, take an HSG exam.

I know you are ready to go, but you really need to wait to see the RE. If they want to do an HSG xray you cannot be pregnant b/c of the dye they use and the antibiotic you are supposed to take prior to the test is very harmful to the baby.
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August 22nd, 2006, 10:48 AM
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After my 1st (naturally) I didn't wait. I had heard so many good stories of women getting pg right after a m/c and everything going great, but I wasn't so lucky. I lost the 2nd one, but after a heartbeat was detected so the Dr didn't think it had anything to do with getting pg so soon. Had to have a D&C after m/c #2 and we are waiting the 2 normal cycles that the doctor suggested. I'm charting this cycle and then TTC next month. The first time I was emotionally ready to try again. This time I think it was good for me to wait. I'm just not ready to face the possibility of another loss, but I'm starting not to dwell on that at least.

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August 22nd, 2006, 11:55 AM
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After my 1st loss we waited 1 cycle to TTC and on the 3rd cycle I was pg again. After my 2nd loss we weren't TTC but ended up getting pg before my 1st cycle and now this time we're waiting until we get out test results back from the RE (which should be sometime in late September). I really want to actively TTC again but I'm terrified of another m/c, and until I get some answers I'm nervous.
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