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April 12th, 2008, 05:22 PM
SamuelsMommy's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Ok so when MIL visited she left some stuff. Ok a lot of stuff. A book, a magnifying glass/reading light thing, shampoo & conditioner bottles (not original packaging), a magnifying make-up mirror. DH suggested boxing it up and sending it to her, I on the other hand am feeling cranky about what it will cost us to ship those items. They aren't little, and aren't light. So how nice should I be? Do I send the stuff or do I put it away until she comes again (which will hopefully be a few months). She hasn't asked us to send it so I'm inclined to just wait until we see her again. What do you think?

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April 12th, 2008, 05:36 PM
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Personally, I wouldn't break my neck to send it if she hasn't said anything about it. Unless you don't want it sitting around your house, which is very understandable. You could store it, say, in the trash can?
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April 12th, 2008, 09:35 PM
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I wouldn't send it. I'd box it up and store it somewhere for the next time she visits.
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April 23rd, 2008, 11:02 AM
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Pitch it.

My MIL leaves stuff all the time because they visit so darned often. They tell me that they are leaving stuff so that they don't have to bring it on the plane. Unfortunately for them, I don't really like them. So my little revenge trip is that I "accidentally" throw out some of the stuff they left for their next visit. This time I've thrown out her makeup and shampoo. When she asks I just say things like "Well, I was doing a little spring cleaning and I thought it was my stuff that I just hadn't used in awhile. If I haven't been using it, I must not need it, so I pitched it."

This last visit they actually left a nice pair of sneakers on our shoe rack. I'm trying to figure out a justification for throwing them out. They aren't my size or else I'd just wear them.

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April 26th, 2008, 09:39 PM
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You could store it, say, in the trash can? [/b]


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April 27th, 2008, 04:51 PM
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box it and stick the box in the garage, forget about it, if she doesn't want them next time she visits, thrift store. or trash.

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April 28th, 2008, 12:58 PM
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I wouldn't even waste my time sending it back personally. If she wants her stuff back that bad, she can give you the money for the shipping costs. It's her stuff after all, not yours. Good luck.

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May 2nd, 2008, 03:06 PM
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I wouldn't send it...if she left it, she left it. I mean if I left something somewhere I think of it as my loss. If it was like a diamond necklace she got when her mom died then no doubt I would send it. But I wouldn't send stuff that really is non essential to mail when she can easily get new shampoo and stuff. Save it for her next visit...but I wouldn't send it.

My MIL lives like a mile away tho so I wouldn't have that problem. But when they move to Mexico my problems are simple...because they can't exactly get mail because it takes forever and where they will move too, people steal the mail so chances of them getting it is slim
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May 2nd, 2008, 04:40 PM
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I guess I am pretty darn happy my inlaws all think I am the epitomy of evil and stay far away. The only time I really even have to see or deal with them is at the holidays (particularly Christmas and turkey day). I guess I am not really fond of them either. If they asked to come say at my house I would let them know that I saw the sign at holiday in said vacancies!
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May 4th, 2008, 03:57 PM
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Blech. I just stuck it away. Actually the book and magnifying glass are still on the kitchen counter and I've been meaning to put them with the other stuff. She hasn't asked again. I guess if DH wants to go send it, he can, but I know he won't so it will have to sit.

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