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September 2nd, 2008, 09:26 AM
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Ok, I am going to try to make the explanation short as possible..... My FIL is the chief of an Indian Tribe. There is a 4-day long festival that is 2 hours from our house that we have to attend every year. DH works the whole weekend and I have a 4 hour shift one of the 4 days that we are there. However, we have to be there for political reasons (shake hands, kiss babies type of thing). We stay in an RV for the long weekend. Every other year we have all 5 kids with us. This year I decided to wait and go up on Saturday since I didn't have to work until Sunday. I have to pack, load the car, and travel with 5 kids not fun to do on a Friday evening after they get out of school.

My MIL was not happy with this decision but oh well!

So we get there Sat afternoon only to find out that my MIL, FIL, and nephew all have a stomach virus; throwing up, diarrhea, fever, the whole nine yards!
I wanted to avoid this bug because I didn't want to be in an RV with 5 throwing up kids and/or make a 2 hour drive home with this! So Saturday evening, they (MIL and FIL) decide they are feeling better and want to see the kids. My MIL kissed everyone of them directly on the mouth and was bent down talking right in their faces. I was so frustrated. DH seemed to be upset with me because I was bothered by her doing this. He told me that she just misses them and wanted to see them. IMO seeing them is one thing, spreading as much of your sick germs as possible is another. I avoided them the rest of the weekend. Sunday night around 2:30 a.m. (monday morning, really) my oldest DS woke up with severe diarrhea. He was burning up with a fever and felt miserable. There was a speech the next morning that we were supposed to be on stage for but DS and I skipped it because he was so sick. He was so sick on the way home. I am so angry that she would take a chance of making the kids sick for her own selfish reasons. Am I just being a butt about this?
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September 2nd, 2008, 10:27 AM
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That is not cool! My mom will cancel even coming if she doesn't feel well because she doesn't want DS to catch it and be sick. That is very selfish of her. I agree that seeing them is one thing but she shouldn't have kissed them especially not on the lips and she should have stayed out of their faces. I'm sorry your son caught it. I hope he feels better soon. Hugs!

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September 2nd, 2008, 04:08 PM
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I agree. You were not being mean at all. I'd be furious!

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September 2nd, 2008, 05:15 PM
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Well if the situation was reversed and your son had it first, wouldn't she be mad if he came and gave it to her? I would be completely furious if she kissed on the kids while she was sick! That could have REALLY hurt him. I hope he gets better soon!

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September 27th, 2008, 03:30 PM
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Man you are way to nice.... I would of told my MIL off.. My hubby has gotten so mad at me so many times...
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October 11th, 2008, 06:08 PM
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I would have told her where to go, thast for sure!
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