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July 28th, 2006, 03:35 PM
3Xblessed's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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So last month and early this month I finally had it after 5 years with my mil. Totally had it out with her over dd's first birthday party which she ruined. Haven't talked to her since. In the middle of all this we went to dh's family cabin on the lake with his grandparents (who I haven't ever really had an issue with) so that they could connect with the kids. All his grandma did all weekend was clean the cabin so that when other family members came up it would be clean....hello...we are here now. She even made comments about me helping...hello I would come to a cleaning weekend if she wanted but this was supposed to be my vacation. Had it out with her and we left 4 days early.

Today I opened a birthday card from her with $100 in it (they have always been too over the top with monetary gifts). I feel weird about taking the money since I am not too happy with dh's family right now. Advice please.
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July 28th, 2006, 04:32 PM
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i dont know...

hubbys grandma has a cabin and the whole family spends thanksgiving week up there. grandma always cooks and cleans for the whole bunch of us. we do dishes and stuff but grandma throws fits if we try to help too much. she also gives lots of money when it comes to bdays,anniversries,chirstmas. we always say thank u and its not nessercary but if we refuse to take the money she finds away to slip it in either hubbys or my bag...

ask hubby what he thinks u should do...
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July 28th, 2006, 06:09 PM
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Hmmm tough one. My nephew hates his mother, he has a much better relationship with his stepmom. His mother knows how he feels, and he is right to have these feelings. For his birthday, she sent him $50 in a card. He felt strange spending on himself since he didn't really want anything from her, so he let his little brother spend it on something HE wanted. So maybe thank her and just say you let the kids spend it?
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July 29th, 2006, 10:48 AM
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Some people just completely lack the ability to be warm towards a person and tries to show their love through actions. Such as making the cabin look nice, giving you money, or cleaning with you. When I would visit my grandmother, we would clean the kitchen. It gave us a chance to talk, she was never a ver affectionate woman but she was loving. She just showed it through cleaning and cooking. She has 9 children and the way they spent time with her, was helping her around the house. Maybe she just doesn't know HOW to show you she appreciates you?
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