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January 24th, 2008, 02:12 PM
SamuelsMommy's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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My MIL isn't coming! That's right, she was supposed to come today and she isn't so now I don't have to deal with her until March!

The bad news: She sunk to a new low, even for her. So here's the whole story:

MIL called last night at around 10. She's decided not to come. She was supposed to come in today. Yea, thanks for the 13 hour notice. It's just annoying that I had already made all the preparations, groceries, meal planning, laundry, etc. Not that those things didn't need to be done, just annoying. And then the real reason for her visit came out. She wanted to come to look for an apartment! Apparently she and FIL are having marital issues. Her sister suggested she get and apartment here and spend some time away. Why? I have no idea. Thankfully, my BIL seemed to talk her out of the whole thing (Thank goodness for him). I can't imagine how any of it would have turned out good. She has definate psychological problems and does see a dr and is on meds and lately she's had a couple seizures. DH and I don't have the time to watch her and make sure she's ok. She doesn't drive because she got a DUI over the prescription meds. DH and I don't have the time to haul her to all the dr. appointments which are fairly often and many and she thinks she needs all these specialists which she would never find in our little town so she'd be wanting to go a ways to find these drs. Etc. Etc. Etc. And we only have one car which DH has most of the day as he's the one working. I would go crazy if she was here more often! As far as the marital problems, she is a lot to handle because of all these issues and tends to be a little self-centered with a poor me attitude and it drains on my poor FIL. My FIL is a great guy, I love him, and he does take care of her but he doesn't always indulge her (as my DH put it). While she does have real problems, she also exaggerates them and is a bit dramatic which makes it hard at times to discern between reality and what she's just putting on. He gets fed up with her overspending and her habitual lateness at times as well. I've often wondered how he can put up with so much and still be so nice to her. He's a saint in my book! So she interprets him not indulging her or ignoring it as him not caring or believing that she's really sick or whatever, and this is apparently causing some marital stress. So she out and out lied to DH when she said that she wanted to come on this trip to see us and Samuel and she had talked about an apartment to him but told him that they (she and FIL) were thinking about getting her one so she could come more often to see us. Obviously she didn't care two hoots about seeing us since she cancelled the trip once she wasn't coming to look for an apartment which was only for her to run away anyway. She was just using us. Anyway...sorry that was so long!

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January 24th, 2008, 02:21 PM
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Thank god for you shes not coming to look for an apartment...sounds like that would be a complete nightmare!

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January 25th, 2008, 11:40 PM
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that is so annoying. how frustrating that you had to prepare for her visit and she cancelled so late.. but then.. I'm also happy that she cancelled.. especially if her real reason was to try to live near you

don't cha just love it when ILs use their children? -insert big cheesy grin-

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January 27th, 2008, 01:09 PM
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Holy cow! You sure dodged a bullet there... sorry that she "couldn't" give you more notice though.
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