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December 23rd, 2011, 07:40 PM
JustLiz's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I know this is kind of tangential to religious beliefs, but...

How do you ladies deal with Santa? DS is too young to understand anything this year, but I'm thinking forward to next year. Daycare had "Santa" visit today. I don't know what I'm going to do when DS starts expecting Santa presents. I'm not sure I want to buy into the whole Santa thing, but I don't want to upset him or cause difficulties with the other children. I guess it is harmless, but I don't see myself being a very good pretender. I don't know why. I am fine with other make believe stuff, but for some reason Santa just gets under my skin.

Thank you Vicki!

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December 25th, 2011, 09:46 AM
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We let the kids believe in Santa. To us, it is kind of a society based ritual....it has no religious feelings in our house. Just a fat guy who lives at the North Pole. but my kids aren't stupid---my son who just turned 8 has asked if he really does exist. We plan on this being the last year of Santa as they are old enough to get it now.
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December 26th, 2011, 09:35 PM
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I'm the odd person out here because I am not a mom. (The only reason I post here is because I was expecting my first back in the summer but miscarried, now TTC)

But I know someone who just calls it a "game". They haven't really told their kids is Santa exists or not but treat it like a game that they play every Christmas. That way their kids can play along with all the other kids.

Not sure how I am going to handle it with my kids. I believed in Santa when I was a child and I had a lot of fun with it. I wasn't upset at my parents when I found out he wasn't real nor did I cry. I was actually relieved because I didn't have to be good all year round

I will say that working with Kindergardeners, the Santa thing is a God send around the holidays. Great way to get rowdy kids to behave.
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January 13th, 2012, 09:44 AM
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IMO Santa is a character associated with the Christmas holidays, which we celebrate in a cultural and secular manner. So I don't encourage actual belief in a Santa who brings presents but I'm ok with Santa being omnipresent.. less obnoxious than Christmas music!

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January 19th, 2012, 06:18 AM
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Same as Jintana

Here the kids don't believe in Santa, but they know what Santa is.
A character associated with christmas, as ghost and pumpkins are to halloween.
They know it's not real and it's someone in costume.

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February 23rd, 2012, 07:38 AM
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Kids only believe for a short while so I am all for it. It is totally a secular creation and people don't worship him or fight wars in his name - so I am cool with him.
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April 25th, 2012, 10:27 AM
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Iknow this is an old post but I wanted to chime in..LOL..I grew up in a non religious home and I am raising my kids the same..but I totally play up santa every yr..not as a religious thing at all but as something fun for the kids..Its great watching them get all excited but I think my oldest is starting to figure it out..Thats going to be a sad day..LOL

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April 30th, 2012, 09:05 PM
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I don't really have a problem with the whole Santa thing. It just seems like a fairly harmless thing, especially since they probably won't start bothering with questions until they're older.
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September 21st, 2012, 11:20 AM
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Originally Posted by YukiSumah View Post
Same as Jintana

Here the kids don't believe in Santa, but they know what Santa is.
A character associated with christmas, as ghost and pumpkins are to halloween.
They know it's not real and it's someone in costume.
I agree. I'll treat it no differently than any other holiday character.
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August 1st, 2013, 12:28 PM
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I love Santa. I love Christmas. I am that person that is already planning for Christmas.


I think it's just more fun. I knew Santa wasn't real, but it was still fun. Awesome wintery, Christmasy stories. I think when I started asking questions I ended up writing a letter to this Santa person. My mom wrote a letter and put a picture of a Santa caught in the act on it. The next year she used my stepdad's work boots and some powdered sugar to make it look like Santa had tracked snow into the house from the fireplace to the tree. My mom still puts 'To:Shaye From: Santa' on my presents. It's just fun holiday spirit.
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November 8th, 2013, 08:42 PM
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We will do the Santa thing. It's just for fun and I see no harm in it.
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November 26th, 2013, 08:53 PM
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We do Ma Ingalls' version of Santa (On the Banks of Plum Creek, by Laura Ingalls Wilder) so the five year old knows it's a concept and not a person. Sometimes we suck at keeping the gifts anonymous because we have such different interests that it's not hard to figure out that Star Wars stuff is from big brother and stuffed dogs are from Grandma, etc.

I loved it and so did my older kids, but I think my parents were traumatized by the "naughty and nice" crapola growing up during the '30s because they always worry about it too much and give the kids way too many toys.
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July 24th, 2015, 04:03 PM
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We'll be doing Santa- why not it's purely fun. The only harm is when you scare your kids with it (behave or else!) -- in the end it's no worse than the Easter Bunny, Cupid, the GReat Pumpkin, etc
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