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April 20th, 2005, 06:26 PM
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This is long, so please bear with me!

I've had a cold for almost 2 weeks now and I haven't been sleeping well. Well, now it's in my ears, throat, and chest and I'm having horrible coughing fits and it's just unbearable. Anyways, yesterday I called my ob/gyn to touch base with him because I've now done 2 months of clomid and not pg yet. He gave me an Rx for 3 months but wanted me to call him after 2. So I did. I talked with him yesterday and he said to do the 3rd round of clomid but in the meantime to call the infertility specialist I saw 4 years ago when ttc our first. Now, I didn't like this specialist the first time, but it got me pg. I didn't want to have to go back to her for ttc #2, but last night dh and I talked about it and decided to do whatever necessary to have baby #2.

When I saw her 4 years ago, I was living in Troy which was about a 1/2 hour from her office. Now, I am living about 5 minutes away from her office so dh and I joked last night that at least if I had an emergency pg blood test or something I could be there in a flash! That's a joke with us because when I took a pg test with my son I thought it was positive but called the specialist and they said to come in for a blood test but they were picking up blood tests at 9:30 am. Well, I made the phone call at 8:30 am and hadn't showered yet. It was the fastest I'd ever gotten ready and i drove really quickly and did the whole thing getting ready to giving blood in 45 minutes.

Okay, so back to today. We get back from our mom and tot class and I called my primary care physician to see if I could get in to make sure I didn't have bronchitis or pneumonia. They said the only time they had available was 1:00 today or 8am Friday morning. It's a 1/2 hour drive so I decided to do it today because if I had to be on antibiotics I wanted to be done with them before I o. I'm cd2 today. It turns out I have a sinus infection.

Got home from the Dr. to find my front door wide open. I was freaking out, my neighbor was outside and asked why my door was open. She came over and we went through the house. My dog, thank goodness was sleeping up in our bedroom and never even knew the front door blew open from the wind.

Then, I couldn't get my son to nap. So, I'm tired, I'm ######y because of AF, I'm sick and haven't slept in a week and my little boy decides that it's past nap time.

Top it off - I call the infertility specialist and ask to make an appt. She asks if I was a new patient and I told her I was there 4 years ago and needed treatment again. She said she would call me back. She would have to get my file from storage. She called back about 4:00 and told me she requested my file from storage but it was going to take about a week and she'd call me back in a week to set up an appointment. I asked her how long the wait was and she said I'd get in within 2-3 weeks. No big deal because I still have clomid for this month. So, then I ask her if I needed a referral for insurance from my ob/gyn and she asked which insurance I have. I tell her Aetna. (We had blue cross when ttc our son)She tells me they don't accept Aetna!! My only option is to switch specialists!

WHAT!!!! ARe you kidding me? So, I look at our insurance to find specialists that accept our insurance. There are 3 in our area. Know where they are? Back in the city that I used to live in 1/2 hour away. I can't freaking believe it!!!!

So, tomorrow I have to call the old specialist have them retrieve my file and call my ob/gyn and see if he'll refer me to 1 of the 3 available and then I have to call 1 or all 3 and find out who I want to go to and if they're accepting new patients.

Girls, I don't want to start all over with running tests. This is nuts but I have no other choice.

Okay, I feel better. If you've read this far, you're an angel!! Thanks for listening. Tomorrow has got to be better than today!

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April 20th, 2005, 06:43 PM
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Shelly, I am so sorry that you have to go threw all of this. How long did it take to to have your son? I hope that you get a BFP this month so you don't have to go threw all of that again. Good Luck ~*~* Baby Dust*~*~

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April 20th, 2005, 06:50 PM
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Just remember that it is always the darkest before the sun rises! Hang in there! I feel ya!
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April 20th, 2005, 06:58 PM
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I am thinking of you and your family.......Remember we are always here to listen!!!!
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April 20th, 2005, 07:15 PM
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WOW, what a nightmare. I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. Here is my take on it....fate maybe? You have been saying that you had a gut feeling about April. So, now that you have gone through all the motions to see a specialist, maybe this will be the month!! So if you get your BFP this month, it will be that much sweeter. Take your antibiotics and get some rest. (I know that isn't EVER easy with a toddler at your feet ) Then i would gear up for the best baby making sessions this side of the ole Miss. Hang in there sweetie. Tomorrow is a new day.
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April 20th, 2005, 07:16 PM
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Im sorry, it will happen. I can feel it! CHEER UP!!!
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April 20th, 2005, 08:21 PM
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I went through something similar with my doctor. DH and I decided to actively start ttc so I thought, well, I better call the doctor. My doctor...was wonderful! Loved loved loved him!! So, I call, explain that it's been about 2 years since I'd been, because of changing jobs, moving to a different state (though still really close enough to drive over) and waiting for insurance to kick in. The nurse (or whoever) says, "well, it's been long enough that you will be considered a new patient". I said, "well that's okay I guess...he still has my record right?". Yes...the nurse says...only...HE'S NOT ACCEPTING NEW PATIENTS!!!!!!!!

Okay. Back to asking girlfriends "who do you see...do you like them...do they take my insurance...blah blah blah!

Anyway, long story short (sorta), I found a new doctor at a great hospital...and got right in. It's been great. And as you know I conceived right away...only to m/c, but still...its promising.

So, I agree with Kathy in that maybe this is all fate?? Let's hope you don't even have to keep that specialist appointment!!!

Lot of luck to you!!!

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April 20th, 2005, 08:40 PM
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I know exactly how you feel lol, instead of a cold I'm having some horrible cramps. I went to my dr today for my appt. and I had to fill out a bunch of paper work for being considered a new patient, since I had not been there since Feb. 2001 then I went back to see the dr and he said that they had to have everything transferred upstairs... which took some time. I also had the stress that my mom was expecting me back to pick up my kids at noon so she could go to her drs appt, and ofcourse I was late and she was upset. But now I have to wait a week to do my ultrasound to see what the hecks wrong with me because they don't have all of my files w/them. And get this they only brought up the files today that listed all the payments I've made... Greedy greedy greedy. I guess they wanted to make sure I've paid all my drs bills lol. I know what it feels like to be in a pickle, so tonight I had me a box of chocolate chip cookie dough bites and sent the kids to bed early...and now I'm waiting for next mth to get here so I can start ttc, I wish you the best of luck and just know your not alone. Oh, and one more thing, Ive found out today my blood pressure is still only 100 over 60 and Ive gained 8pds so glad its almost over with!!! Gl and wishing you a brighter better day tomorrow, God bless you!
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April 21st, 2005, 02:32 AM
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OH I'm so sorry Shelly!! BUT you still have this month and you've been talking positive about it. Hopefully you'll make the appt. but it will be your month and you'll be preggo at the end!! Good luck and get BDing. Don't stress out it will happen and hopefully this month!!

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April 21st, 2005, 06:03 AM
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Oh honey... that stinks! Just try and remember your prediction of getting pg this month. You still have the clomid... so there is still a chance that this will all be for naught! I certainly hope so. Good Luck this month....
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April 21st, 2005, 06:42 AM
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Oh Shelly, sorry to hear about your chaotic news I really think it's a sign though. You've been saying for a while that April will be your month and I think this might be God's way of saying "Ok, you're gonna get pg this month one way or another"

Lots of luck to you. Keep your chin up. I'm sending you lots of *****baby dust***** and prayers your way. Keep us posted on everything.

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April 21st, 2005, 06:47 AM
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Sending lots of Babydust for this month!!, Hope your sinus infection is better soon
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April 21st, 2005, 08:44 AM
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oh, so sorry hun
hang in there
we are all here for ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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April 21st, 2005, 09:26 AM
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I'm so sorry that you are having a bad day!!! You are going to be such an awesome mommy again!!! Everything will work out for you and you will be pregnant soon!!!

I will be praying for you!!


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April 21st, 2005, 10:54 AM
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April 21st, 2005, 07:12 PM
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I am so sorry! Just remember that the end result makes it all worth it! I had to switch docs and it turned out to be a blessing and she has been a huge help. Hang in there, it will get better! Babydust***


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