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September 1st, 2014, 05:34 AM
Join Date: Sep 2014
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right now, i have been crying for 2 hrs...we've just celebrated 10 years together and i'm pregnant with our second, who took us 3 years to decide to have. Yesterday, i was so happy, thinking he was the best husband and father. Last night he wasn't his self, and today he said he doesn't find me sexually attractive any more, and hasn't for some time...admittedly, i haven't feeling it either but thought it's just marriage,everyone goes through this, but he's not sure he even wants to fix it! I am devastated,we are the couple that everyone thinks are so together!!! I'm studying too, and he was studying before me, so we haven't had much money, and to be honest for the last year i have been so tired, i probably haven't looked the best, but i am normal, not over weight. I worry because i try not to give in to social norms, i don't always shave my legs or wear makeup, but i don't know if it's just physical looks or if by enhancing them that he'll come back to me mentally.
I feel like my future has just collapsed! I honestly thought we'd be together forever and that we could fix anything...i am gutted!
I have noone to talk to and all of my family live over seas...idon't want to tell my friends because then it might become real!
We are going to hopefully to talk to someone, does anyone know of anyone who has saved their marriage?
Right now he is talking to his friend....which is why i'm on here. He's not perfect but i always thought he was perfect for us!
any comments appreciated x
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September 5th, 2014, 08:16 PM
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Sorry to hear about what you are going through. However, love is a choice. It's something I choose to do everyday. Since you are both willing to look into the marriage, I believe there is hope. Below are 2 things to look into regardless of whether you are xtians or not. My DH and I enjoy going on the weekend to remember; it helped us when we were in a bad place with our marriage and we go whenever my mom is around to keep the kids because it helps us refresh and renew our marriage. It was marriage saving for us (I am not affiliated with the organization in anyway; that was just what worked for us even though we had tried marital counseling prior with little success). Praying things turn around for you.

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