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January 16th, 2011, 01:07 PM
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Friday and Saturday were really difficult to get through. I know it was likely related to the upcoming anniversaries, but it sucks.

Friday, I subbed for an elementary art teacher. At one point, I was sitting at the tables talking with the students while they worked. The topic of families came up and the conversation went like this:

Kid 1: "Who lives in your house?"
Me: "Just me and my husband."
Kid 2: "You don't have any kids?"
Me: "No, we don't."
Kid 3: "So you just have a mommy and a daddy at your house?" (Yes!)
Me: "Not exactly. We don't have any kids, so we're not mommies and daddies yet."
Kid 2: (Back to her original question) "Why?"
Me: "It's just not time yet." (If this had been an adult, the answer would have been WAY different!)

What was I supposed to say?! The truth would've been very inappropriate, I think.

Then, Saturday, we set out to do grocery shopping. First stop was Costco. There were a good number of babies/toddlers there, but I was fine. Didn't seem to bother me at all. Then (after lunch) we went to Walmart. We grabbed cat litter and an extension cord before heading to the food. In the aisle with the extension cords was a very pregnant woman. For some reason, this really struck a chord. I started messing around on the iPhone to distract myself but then she walked closer. I ended up leaving the aisle while DH made up his mind.

After that, I purposely took the long way to the food to avoid the kids clothes and baby section only to find random baby stuff in the cleaning aisle!

Of course there were babies and toddlers everywhere in the store! One specific family I walked away from only to have them decide to head my direction!

It was all I could do not to break down in the store (multiple times). I swear, if we hadn't needed food so bad, I would have just given up and left. But we were in desperate need of groceries so I pushed on. I did refuse to get the milk though. I made DH go by himself to get it. (The milk is right next to the baby stuff.)

I did find that it passed after Walmart, but my mood was definitely less upbeat for the remainder of the day.

DH has been having a rough time recently, too. Friday night, he was struggling just to make it through Despicable Me. He said that the scene where Gru adopts the girls was hard to make it through. He said there were other scenes too, but that by the time he told me he could remember which ones specifically.

I know the night we put up the Christmas tree was rough on him as well (because he realized there weren't going to be any presents under it and there should have been a lot.)

Sorry this got to be so long. I don't guess I expect anyone to make it through this super long whine-fest. It helped a bit just to get it all out. (And if you did read it all, you deserve a cookie!)

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January 16th, 2011, 01:43 PM
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No cookie please.

I don't know exactly what you're going through. But I'm sorry and my heart breaks for you. If you need someone to talk to you know where to find me. I will be saying some extra prayers for comfort for you over next few days.
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January 16th, 2011, 04:25 PM
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I am so sorry Augie. I wish there were words that could take your pain away. I know what you mean about the tree that was so hard. Sorry the store was so difficult. I know the closer I get to big dates the harder it gets. It always seems hard though .


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January 17th, 2011, 08:37 PM
Happy Song's Avatar Nicole
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I am so sorry that the simple things are just so difficult.
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January 17th, 2011, 10:23 PM
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I'm sorry you've had a rough couple of days.

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