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April 19th, 2010, 11:54 AM
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Hi, my name is Tammy. I am new here. I am wanting to start homeschooling my daughter next year (she will be in the 4th grade), but she doesn't want to do it. When I ask her why she says it's becuse she won't have a life or have any friends. I keep reminding her that she will still have her friends from her extra-curricular activities, as well as new freinds that she will make at the homeschool co-op that I plan to join. She is still very resistant. Part of me says that I just need to stand up and be the parent and say "this is what we are going to do", but then I'm afraid that if I do that she will come into it with a bad attitude and won't learn anything. Has anyone else had a problem like this, and if so, how did you get past it?

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April 19th, 2010, 12:57 PM
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I haven't been in that situation, but have you explained to her why you want to HS? Has she ever met any other HS kids?

Anytime she complains about something, tell her something along the lines of "homeschoolers don't have to deal with things like that" or "if you homeschool, it would be this way instead of that way".

I'm sure someone else will have a better response than I do.
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April 19th, 2010, 08:23 PM
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See if you can get involved with a few homeschool families NOW, so she can make some homeschooled friends. You can also find extracurricular activities such as AWANA, all sorts of things at the YMCA (swimming, gymnastics...), dance classes, etc, and assure her she will get to spend time with her 'old' friends while she makes new ones... you might even start letting her have a friend over every Friday evening or Saturday afternoon or whatever right now, so it is something she is used to and knows you'll make happen. You can also usually find activities she would probably be interested in doing (like museums/living history programs, science workshops, etc) that happen during the day on weekdays so she CAN'T go, but would be able to go to if she was at home.... nothing like a little jealousy to make a kid want to stay at home. And of course like Chrystal said, every complaint she has that is school related (like about her teacher, her homework, how boring her day is, etc) is an opportunity to point out that homeschooling doesn't have that issue.

My niece (at the time she was 5) didn't want to be homeschooled for the same reason-- she was going to miss all her friends, and now she was homeschooled for 6 months, put back into school for 1.5 yrs, and she wants to be homeschooled by her choice, even though she "would never see her friends", because she can do so much more during the day and all that.
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April 21st, 2010, 06:36 PM
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I agree with getting involved with HS group activities now and explaining to her why you are wanting to HS and have her at least give it a try for a year and see how things go.
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April 22nd, 2010, 04:58 PM
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I just want to say thank you to everyone for the advice. Over the last few days I have been talking to her alot and I believe that I have her convinced in trying it for at least a year. I have already been in contact with one of the local co-ops and plan on getting together with them over the summer so that she can get to know some of the other children. She is also very involved in dance (usually 3-4 days a week), so she will still see her best friends there. Now I just need to convince her dad (my ex-husband) that this will be good for her, so wish me luck!
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April 22nd, 2010, 07:00 PM
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Good luck with him! If you have custody of her, then from what I have heard, you shouldn't have any issues with him, you just tell him this is what your doing and end of story.
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