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May 28th, 2007, 01:01 PM
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I know we all get a lot of these and I know it is easy to let them get to us, so to stop fretting about it I just wanted to vent. I have a good friend and neighbor who has decided to homeschool. She is doing a great job so far and her son is only kindergarten age and her other son is 4. She and I may disagree with some parenting things, but in all I think she is a great mom who is trying. Where I live everyone seems to think ill of her parenting already and now with the homescholling they are brutal when she is not around and yet nice to her face. I am always sticking up for her when they go off on whatever about her. Anyway, I am sitting there and my friends and HER friends and neighbors start saying "It takes a really good mom who disciplines to homeschool and she is NOT that mom." and then someone else says "She told me that in 3 years her kids will be smarter than mine (which I KNOW is not true she never speaks badly about anyone and would never say that ) and all I want to say is I will give her my contact info and in 3 years we will SEE who's kids are smarter" They said a few other choice ones about homeschool and her and suddenly they realize I am right there and they all try to back-peddle. I stick up for her and tell them she is being very educated about it and has gone to many homeschool conventions and that homeschool is not the type of thing that most parents take lightly and she knows what she is doing.

I don't know why the ones who were homeschooled get the comments to their face. I get people telling me homeschoolers are weird right after I say that I was hs. They all tell me to my face how stupid it is and I don't know why they think it is better to tell the one who was hs instead of the parent homeschooling.
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May 28th, 2007, 01:27 PM
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Well, my best friend who just told me my kids were going to be weird - her fiance was homeschooled. Hmmmmm......I think that no matter what you do, people will not agree with it. I spank my kids. Lots of people do not. I used cloth diapers and disposables, some people find that insane! I stayed home with Scotty - some moms think working is the way to go, other actually got angry with me because I could stay home and they couldn't. You know, to each his own. This is my choice and they aren't going to rain on my sunshine.

As for your friend - if those people don't have the guts to tell her this to her face, then she has no use for them anyway.

Oh, and her kids, if they are naturally academic minded, probably will be ahead of the kids her age in PS. That is just fact.
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May 28th, 2007, 01:33 PM
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It is crazy how obnoxious people can be about homeschooling. It sounds like this lady's friends like to gossip and aren't very nice "friends" in general.

My mom told me my niece told my daughter that it isn't fair that her mom (me) MAKES her stay home and doesn't allow her to go to public school. Ani said I don't make her stay home and she likes to be homeschooled. My niece said that public school is WAY more fun than homeschooling because she has friends. Ani said she has friends. My niece said Ani should tell her to let her go to public school. Ani said no because she likes to be homeschooled. My niece just turned 8 and just finished second grade btw.

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May 28th, 2007, 01:53 PM
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That sounds like they don't have more socail skills than a a kid in middle school. That Alone is just a reasion to home school. lol

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May 28th, 2007, 06:30 PM
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Wow and I thought it was bad here! Nobody has said such outright negative coments. Well not while I was around at least.
Why can't people just agree to disagree and let people parents in whatever way suits them. Just because you don't want to do xyz, why critizize people that do? I just don't get it.

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May 28th, 2007, 06:47 PM
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Just because you don't want to do xyz, why critizize people that do? I just don't get it.[/b]

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May 28th, 2007, 10:57 PM
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I had to crack up at the smilie with the knife in the back.

Yea....people just plain suck sometimes. I am glad you were able to take up for her!
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May 29th, 2007, 05:54 AM
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Agreed ...people suck! I have gotten rather confident in our decision so the comments roll of my back for the most part. plus now I tend to only hang out with HSIng friends..no I didn't ditch my NON hsing friends..I never had that many....lol. Before HSing I was the weird chick who stayed home, nursed her kids, used cloth diapers etc.. I was not mainstream enough to be comfy with the mainstream moms, and not crunchy enough to hang witht he crunchy moms..so I pretty much just existed..we had a few friends.. Alison of FBB but then she went and moved on me 3 years ago, a few other "friends" from the dance studio etc.. I would go to the park or storytime or whatever and never clicked with any of the moms.. now I have more friends than I can see in a few weeks and my kids are sooo active. We always did things..but now they thrive! Anyone who thinks HS'd kids aren't social should really read my blog..lol.. I think it says it all!
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