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May 28th, 2011, 05:59 PM
Join Date: May 2011
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OK so a bit about me ...I'm brand new on here and am as my username says a " scared first timer"
I'm 37 and just found out that I am 6 (ish) weeks pregnant.
I need to tell family in a gentle way......here in starts my story..

I lost my husband of 5 years to cancer after a very short illness in 2009. He had children from a previous marriage and could not have more, so I made the decision to marry him knowing I would never have children. Our life was great and being childless didnt seem that big of a deal.

However , when I realised I know had the chance to have children (before it was too late) I understood that I really did want children and always had, but I guess sacrificed that for the wonderful life I had with my husband. (and I know if he was still here the thought of children would probably never have crossed my mind)

I now have met a wonderful guy and we have been together since January this year (I've known him many years however) and last week I discovered I / we are pregnant.
Overjoyed is not the word for it!! We both have no other children and are sooo excited its not funny. BUT....... how do I inform the parents of my late husband and his brothers etc, not to mention his children (grown up children with babies of their own) in a gentle way??
I do still talk with the parents and brothers (not so much the kids) and would like to tell them in someway rather than them finding out via the dreaded facebook or some other way.

Please help .
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May 28th, 2011, 09:01 PM
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WOW! That is a tough one. First of all, it isn't like you just lost your husband...it's been 2yrs. Do they know about this man you are seeing? Perhaps, I would start out by telling them almost what you posted here and say that you loved DH dearly and sacrificed that part of your life to have the life you wanted with him and you were OK with that. However, now that yow have met someone else and are trying to move on a bit, your life has taken a different course.

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